Feeling overwhelmed with work and also wanting to be more active in other areas of my life...

[Nichole18]

I focus all of my energy on trying to make it through the work week successfully and not overthink ever little interaction at work.Usually I am too exhausted after work and on weekends to develop other parts of my life (developing friendships, family relationships, support systems, reading books,etc.). I have noticed this struggle since at least middle school (I am 32 years old now), but I have always had a anxious nature. Anyone have a similar story or advice?

[Hidden]

Writing things down and setting small social goals help. I try to make plans with one or two people throughout the week. I’m pretty introverted as well so I don’t try to do too much per week because I’ll start to feel run ragged between work and getting myself together. if that makes sense or helps you.

[Nichole18 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. This does help. I think this forum will help as well. I usually do not express my anxiety-related struggles, so this is a big step.

[Olinick]

I know exactly what you mean. I have always been this way. When I was younger I found I could get work done on the weekend but I was always so focused on getting work done that I didn't often do other things like socialize with friends. My job does require me to work at night on the weekends so it was always on my mind. Now that I am older I find I put so much energy into the job during the day and the week that by the time I get home at night or on the weekends I don't want to do anything. I wish I had some suggestions for you. Here it is 4:00 in the afternoon on a Sunday and I haven't accomplished anything. Maybe others will have some suggestions for us.

[Nichole18 in reply to Olinick]

Thank you for sharing your story...I think sharing is helpful in itself.

[hypercat54]

I must admit I found my last job a big strain and so tiring I would have little energy to go out and socialise. But I was in my 50's then. At your age I could work all day, and go out most nights. My depression wasn't that bad then I guess but my physical health was always very good fortunately and this carried me through.

Have you had any check ups at your doctor? Do you think this tiredness could have a physical cause such as lack of certain vitamins or low iron. It could be worth getting it checked out and also have a look at your diet to ensure it is as healthy as possible. x

[Nichole18 in reply to hypercat54]

Thank you for your response. I for sure need to look at my health as a whole.

[Hidden]

I wouldn’t say you have an anxious nature. You are just a conscientious person.

[Nichole18 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your input! I am working on a balance.

[Hidden in reply to Nichole18]

Yes but don’t lose that trait. Being conscientious is a good thing.

[Nichole18 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you!

[gogogirl]

I concur with seeing a MD , and checking out any physical causes for tiredness. Perhaps exercise of YOGA or meditation could be a relief? When I say exercise, I mean doing something you enjoy even if it;s by yourself for a little while in nature. What is you work, anyway?

[gogogirl]

Why not do some meditation and /or yoga?

[Jiwa]

Hi there !!! I had similar " symptoms" and that's how my depression/ anxiety started. I was worried about everything and nothing was good enough so I thought it didn't make any sense etc

My mum worked very hard as a teacher, was very conscientious and a perfectionist, just before retiring she had cancer. Now she thinks she's wasted all those years. It's not worth it.

You can lose your job but family, friends and good memories stay with you.

Maybe you could have a therapy to help you find the balance ?

Take care