I just want to know...

[AlwaysSweet]

I seen a post saying " You can't heal in the same environment that made you sick". I wanted to know what's some of your thoughts about that saying. Do you think it's possible or not?

[LoveforAll41]

I think that it depends. I guess I wouldn't say that anything is impossible, but it would be really hard if something didn't change. I think that most of my unhealthy self talk and ideals were instilled watching my father. I grew up and moved out and kept the same unhealthy thoughts for 13 more years. Life changed though and perfectionism stopped applying in some ways and did in others. I think that if you are somewhere being physically or verbally or emotionally abused and that is the reason for your mental illness I would say one key step to recovery would be changing that environment. Humans are amazing and resilient creatures though.

[AlwaysSweet in reply to LoveforAll41]

Yup understandable. What happens when you feel like your the only one trying to change the environment and no one else is ready to even acknowledge that there's a problem within the environment. So you keep taking the blows thinking that's what it's going to take for it to change but then realize I'm the only one changing "emotionally and mentally". It hurts a lot. All you're looking for is understanding and realization. But it doesn't seem like you would ever get that.

[LoveforAll41 in reply to AlwaysSweet]

I can't speak to your exact situation, but it sounds like if you are evolving you could leave this situation. If there is family involved of course this will involve a lot of deliberation.

[tommy2toes]

I would agree with that. Whether a workplace setting or somewhere like a home, I think it would sooner or later get under my skin. Then again, there is the argument that upping sticks and moving somewhere new is a form of denial, because wherever we go, there is something (our background) that we constantly carry with us. Bit of a no-win situation. Sorry if that upsets you.

[AlwaysSweet in reply to tommy2toes]

Oh not upset all opinions are welcome here. I definitely understand what you are saying. I've been struggling with that detachment of how I was raised.

[TailWags]

I agree as long as you define environment broadly. I think something needs to change. But it could be knowledge medication, season, etc.

[AlwaysSweet in reply to TailWags]

Thank you...

[Agora1]

Hi AlwaysSweet. I personally found that the change needs to start with me.

Then and only then will you gain control of your life, your happiness and your

well being. xx

[AlwaysSweet in reply to Agora1]

I'm trying and as soon as I try to set boundaries. It immediately blows up in my face.

[Agora1 in reply to AlwaysSweet]

AlwaysSweet, it depends what the situation is about. If you are safe from harm then

removing yourself from emotional abuse is about finding a quiet space for yourself.

Regenerate and don't allow anyone to disrupt your peace of mind. If there is continual

abuse either physical or emotional, then a safe place may be out of that situation.

Healing is about addressing the issue. Can you, through therapy, address the issue

causing you to stay in the same environment that made you sick?? Only you can

answer that. Your mental well being takes priority. xx