Feeling sorry for myself??

[ElephantsHear]

hi, how do people do it when they have no one? I have anxiety and depression so I worry a lot about the future and I isolate myself and Im not very functional right now. I wish I felt like taking a shower. I have a tear in my calf muscle so I’m walking with a limp/ spasms in my muscle (taking Tylenol and muscle spasm med). I feel sorry for myself. How do people do it alone? I’ve lost confidence in myself so I haven’t left the house in days. Thanks for listening. I’m just feeling sorry for myself.

[Sandpiper14]

The only person you will truly go all throughout life with is yourself so you do sort of have to try to learn how to do things for you and you alone. Not withstanding of course leaning on support where needed, I do think there is something fundamental in learning to live with yourself.

For me, I’m going through a difficult time at the moment and let me tell you, I haven’t left bed all day. I’m allowing myself this day to grovel and do nothing and tomorrow I step back up because if I don’t all the hard work already will be for nothing and there’s no one else whose going to be able to help me in the same way that I need to help myself right now.

I think take a day or a few days or even a week but set a date that you decide you will try. You don’t need to move mountains you just got to promise yourself you will try.

[Hidden in reply to Sandpiper14]

Don't do it man I faced it and it just kills your spirit.

[Hidden]

I mean... You eventually need someone... Because no one knows you better than your own body. And if you feel like you can't do it alone... Then it's a signal to find someone to atleast share how you feel.

Btw you're at the right place and I hope you get over it soon.

[CLB1125]

I think even those that have people around them who support them, can feel alone. There’s days I wish I could make myself take a shower or even brush my teeth. Im not alone, but most of the time I feel like I am. No one here notices or cares if I shower or not. In the end it’s up to me to make myself do it. I have to be my own someone who gives a damn and tells me when I need to stop feeling sorry for myself and do what needs to be done. I hope I'm making sense. When I feel I need that someone to tell me it’s okay you’re doing your best, I post here. There’s always someone who cares.

[Rocknrollmom]

I am sorry you are struggling. I understand those feelings of loneliness even though I have been married for almost 32 years. Unfortunately, my husband doesn’t believe that depression is a real thing, although he takes anti-anxiety medication. I often feel I would be better off alone. Do you have a support friend or group that you can talk to? Friends, co-workers, church groups, book clubs can all be places to meet people and form relationships. Being in pain can skew your outlook also. I hope your injury heals quickly so you can go out out and reconnect with people and nature, although I totally understand the feeling of wanting to isolate….it’s part of depression. Are you on an antidepressant? They really help me a great deal. Good luck to you.

[Barbloki]

I hear you on the isolation and I have anxiety really bad. I have to force myself to breathe and to get out of the house. It's really hard. We have a senior center in town and I go there to have socialization. We all need people. We were not created to be alone. Please try to find a place you can go and be around others. Call the local mental health center and see if they have a support group you can go to. Even if you just sit and don't talk it will be helpful. And keep posting here. Everyone understands.

[Bakerssquare]

Not your fault, it's the depression rearing it's ugly head! I'm in the same situation. I can get out of the house as long as my husband is with me. Otherwise the anxiety is too much. Talking to people here helps. I feel less isolated