It's been a little bit..

[Mmabear]

Hello everyone,It's been almost a year since my last post. Hope everyone is doing better. My son stopped taking his medication and has slowly felt better on his own. The medications were really making him feel worse mentally. He has held down his job for over 2 years. He's now an assistant manager. Yet, he just works, comes home, sleeps on his days off. He still doesn't socialize outside of work at all. He tells me he's just existing. I broke down emotionally when he expressed this to me. We were suppose to move to Oregon in July of last year. New career, new life but everything came to a complete halt and fell through right before we were to move. It was beyond stressful. My son was excited and looking forward to this change. I hadn't seen him excited about anything in a very long time. Now.. I feel his depression has kicked in double time. He's just completely numb. He did tell me he was thinking of going into the military. My mind and heart starting racing at the thought of him inlisting. I told him I support him no matter what he chooses but deep down I'm terrified. The military? I wasn't expecting that. He's a very sweet, gentle loving soul. I'm just at a complete loss of what to do now. Don't even know where to start to help my son heal.

[LoveforAll41]

Hi Mmabear, that is very rough. I am glad that your son is feeling somewhat better and can work. That is often a good source of self-esteem, but I think that it is important to remember to have worth even if we can't hold down a job. Does your son go to counseling? I know that when all I am doing is working and sleeping I am not doing well mentally. I really really like the work of David Burns in his book "Feeling Great" and there is also the podcast Feeling Good from his work.

I honestly believe there is a path to peace for all of us, we just have to find it. There is ketamine therapy, all sorts of meds, and stuff to try. Don't give up. It is really hard when it is someone we care about as we cannot make them try stuff. I think it is important that your son knows that he has value no matter what he does or does not do. I wish you both peace, hope, and strength.☮️

[Mmabear in reply to LoveforAll41]

Thank you ❤️

[Mmabear]

I'm not sure what that is? I'll look into it. Thank you ❤️

[LoveforAll41 in reply to Mmabear]

The ketamine therapy? Ketamine was used for general anesthesia and then they have found that smaller doses can help you relax and help your brains neuroplasticity so that you can change your thought processes away from the ones that make you depressed/anxious or whatever. You can get therapy too while you have some ketamine going which I think is the best route. You can do doses without therapy but it is best to be working on stuff while you are going to maximize the benefits. Just another thing to try, I have really liked it. I feel like it has been pretty grounding for me.

[Mmabear in reply to LoveforAll41]

Thank you