Family struggles and my mental health

[Baconandchesse]

I feel overwhelmed because I am currently in college and unfortunately have to return home for the holidays. I am also having surgery during the holidays. I don't want to go back home. Living with my family is not safe for me. I need to feel like I can get through living with them for those few weeks without engaging in bad coping skills.

[litethatnevergoesout]

I’m sorry that going back home is not safe for you. you can focus on your surgery. what is the surgery? what would be considered bad coping skills? do you have a plan for healthy coping skills?

[LadyZen]

Oh goodness. That's a tough situation. I use to just stay at school for the holidays. I'm wondering if you can set some boundaries at home.

[catsrock]

For me, I would need to have a plan of what I will do when family triggers me. Is there a safe place you can go? Can you find a phrase to say when these things happen - like, "I'm not comfortable with this and need to go to my room" - whatever feels right for you. If you have a therapist, they can help you make a plan.