I have deleted my post which was meant entirely in a caring way about how my life used to be, and yet i received some of the most hurtful comments which was unmerited, everyone has misfortunes and brickbats in their life, and we all take different actions to address the hurt we go through.
And if we take comfort in various beliefs or therapies, sobeit, for we are all on a journey in however way we think fit, and there is no need to diss people's way of thinking, respect is my watchword.
I have belonged to HU for many years and have added many constructive stories which i believe has helped others, if only in perhaps a small way, but now i feel its time I leave Health Unlocked for after my recent story and the venom i experienced I am not strong enough mentally to take anymore unpleasant comments, for they were decidedly unpleasant in the extreme, and with a number of recent participants who like to mock and cause havoc I realize this is no place for me, it was once a place one felt safe to express ones views , but no more, one walks on eggshells every step of the way.
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Back in April I had some nasty things said to me on one of the other boards claiming I had brought getting evicted on myself as I supposedly Swan around all day every day without a job indulging in luxuries which was rubbish and I had told the stupid people what I thought of them and took it as a lesson to stay away from them in the future!
Some people don't think that what they say can hurt!
I find it's always the way when I am feeling low its when people think it's the right time to have a go at me and I don't need it!
I was just coming into your post to speak to you and it was deleted.
I'm going to swing in two directions with my reply.
I reflected on what you were saying regarding what has been lost over the years. There are so many ways to continue the spirit of giving
Food pantries, toys for tots, volunteering at a shelter, cooking a meal for an elderly neighbor.
I could go on with my list. The holidays are what we make of them. If each of us could do something small to give back imagine what the world would be like? Imagine what we would feel like giving back to others
The other day at Tescos volunteers from the local food bank were asking us for donations for them so I said I would look in the cupboard and see what I can do for them.
Some people are just miserable and looking for an argument and it's up to you not to engage with them and walk away like I did on Tuesday.
What is was was that my mother had hoped to cause an argument by saying how her and the golden couple had been away to Madeira for a week which was why she supposedly hadn't had time to have contacted me sooner!
All I did was laugh and decided how its futile getting myself upset over things I can't do anything about and how I do control my behaviour and walked away without incident as like one of my friends said who cares about that and I said honestly I don't and how I have learned its futile to get upset over things I can't do anything about and they say I am better than the spoilt golden couple with all I have achieved and that one day life will come crashing down for them all and I laughed and said in the interim I will get on with living my life and not let them get to me!
Decided to treat myself to lunch out today before I go to the panto at the village hall at 2pm which I am looking forward to!
That's the best thing to do is to stay away from those who upset you and do nice things for yourself.
This morning I was at a loose end after breakfast and decides the world wouldn't end if I sat down for a bit and listened to music before heading out later on so that's what I have done and enjoyed having a bit of quiet.
Religion can be a very touchy subject, like politics. I am a deeply religious person, but I do try to accommodate to others depending on what religion they are or aren't. There is a spiritual component to mental health that's going to be different for everyone. If your mental health journey requires spiritual healing, don't worry about those that don't understand. There will be those like me that will understand it. I appreciated your last post. It was an outlet for the spiritual discoveries I've made over time. It wouldn't have been something I would've necessarily posted or shared with everyone. I didn't think you were preachy in that post. All I saw was someone trying to work through their observations of the world.
You said nothing wrong in My eyes, your post was beautiful about the old times which we both remember, im afraid some people on here choose to see the bad side of everything, it’s this new Wokery that’s everywhere, please stay , we’ll miss your posts
ˈwəʊkɪzəm ) or wokery (ˈwəʊkərɪ ) noun. informal, often derogatory. the behaviour and attitudes of people who are sensitive to social and political injustice.
It's not used these days except as an insult from 'Mr/s Right' type of people who applaud free speech for themselves but wishes to insult others right to the same free speech if they disagree with their views.
There is no excuse for rude or crass behaviour and I am in no way condoning that. But surely we all have the right to disagree politely with each other without the need to resort to insults?
I didn't see Secrets post or the replies so can't comment on those and I am very sorry he was upset. But I still don't see the need for that word as it's not polite. That's all I am saying.
What’s Wokery? Actually it seems to be the “in “ word everywhere these days, As I said when people try to impose their views rightly or wrongly on others, it’s not impolite or an insult .
I was one of the first to answer Secrets post so I know exactly what and wasn’t said , his lovely post was about looking back at the old times and it was taken the wrong way by someone , hope he doesn’t leave because of that.
Think about it a little more before you push the exit button. Many times I’ve come close to leaving for good reason, but waited and decided not to and I’m glad. This time of the year can bring sad feelings…hang on…it’ll get brighter and the good things will be more obvious. 🩵
Don’t worry about the earth. It’ll be just fine as it has been for billions of years without us and it heals amazingly in its own way. We just have to look out for each other in able to stick around and enjoy it .
Oh! Flooding possibilities? Not good at all. My area is ok except for the rain turning us into the Amazon these last few years and til the Hurricane season starts again. Then all bets are off. It’s always something……
Please don’t leave. I saw nothing wrong with your post. It kinda took me back to my own childhood memories. You were not “preachy at all. I like you respect how other people choose to live with or without faith. I try to listen and understand others views rather than shut them down. I’m sure you do the same. As my parents used to say let it go in one ear and out the other!
I understand. Someone on here inferred that I'm not educated about a month ago and, I stepped away for a bit. Maybe you just need some time. Don't leave.
I won't go over old ground with you as I gathered the conversation has caused friction,and i missed the subject anyway, but I think I've got the jest of the matter.However i feel us older people are still required on here to install some common sense sometimes,people can be sensitive to various subjects, or you get people who are what I call awkward and like to stir the pot, and will then will jump on the band wagon,I've often seen heated discussions starting on the forum, and I look in and watch the various people getting more irate, I often " forgive " these people because of age or the facts are they have no life experience, and of course the way life has changed over the last few decades.
Yes we may be old, and yes we were young and inexperienced once, but today's younger generation can be disrespectful to us, or perhaps think our experience counts for nothing,I avoid certain subjects myself, but I certainly don't back down, and I wouldn't delete any posts if I knew I was expressing a feeling that has your heart felt emotions that doesn't cross the moderator's guidelines, it's often the other people that have the problems, and not the person with years of experience that counts, I've read many of your posts before, and perhaps those who have given you a difficult time should take time out and understand how the world revolves, then they'll understand the earth isn't flat.
I didn’t see your post or the comments so can’t have a considered opinion but surely having been here for over five years you will have seen what can happen at times and how some people can treat others, it’s par for the course really 🤷♀️ I almost made it to six years without ever being verbally attacked but life goes on. Just give said person/s a wide berth. We all get to know who might possibly not be our “cup of tea” so to speak and move on to the people we know and trust. It’s obviously your choice but would be a shame as you have so many friends on here and remember your anthem “I am what I am” and stick to it. 👍
Hi secrets. How are you? Please don't let a negative reply to your post put you off. One or 2 people on here can be intolerant at times I find. I enjoy reading your posts and although I didn't fully agree with all, it doesn't matter - it's your view which counts and I couldn't see that you were harming anyone or breaking guidelines. I took it that you were being nostalgic. Not at all preachy in my view.
I hope you continue to post your thoughts, you have a place here like anyone else and I would certainly miss you. I passed Clevedon on the M5 yesterday afternoon and it was shrouded in freezing fog, looked quite dramatic! Fogged up on the levels, temp read -2 degrees. Horrible journey home!
Secrets, hope you’re ok, you can see by all these positive posts even those who didn’t actually read your post that you have lots of support on here, don’t take one or two people who don’t agree with you or doesn’t believe that everyone has a right to their own opinion and that they are not always right to put you off, Live and let live, I look forward to reading your posts, take care
Oh Secrets, Don't go. Most of us will get an bad comment or two from time to time, report them and let Admin sort it out, Sometimes the other person just misunderstood what you meant, and occasionally there is a troll, but mostly folk are nice, don't let one post take you out.
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