Anxiety depression PTSD bipolar etc

[Honey19Joy]

I'm having a hard time right now with the holidays coming I miss my mama My kitty just passed away it's been really rough year

[gajh]

I am so sorry for your losses.

[bonkers65]

I'm sorry you are having a hard time.

[Honey19Joy in reply to bonkers65]

Thank you so much

[Honey19Joy in reply to bonkers65]

Thank you so much

[Hidden]

Hey ♥️ sorry to hear you are not feeling well and are struggling. Sending you lots of love and a hug. It can feel tough and like it will never end missing someone or a beloved pet.. but it will pass.. it’s good you are not suppressing it. When you feel it you can process it and then it will flow away from you and before you know it, you will be in another moment in time and smile again. ♥️ I really wish that for you. To me Christmas is a celebration of love and care.. if currently you are by yourself maybe you can create a new tradition for yourself this year. Make it a celebration if self love… get food you love, whatever you want, draw a nice bath or watch your favourite movie, listen to music you love, gift yourself a super cosy blanket if you don’t have one yet to snuggle up in your pyjamas.. explore what makes you feel good and comforts you and makes you feel safe that you can easily do for yourself. To me it’s about feeling relaxed and comfortable and safe that time of the year. Some years I intentionally spend the days on my own practicing self care, slowing down life, practicing mindfulness and being good to myself.

If you’re more a social person maybe there is a choir you can join to celebrate the holidays, and joyfully sing together. Using your voice can be very healing. Or volunteering somewhere, an animal shelter or a place to support people, sharing your love and time and attention with others can be very rewarding and make a difference in another person’s or animal’s life / and it’s healing for the soul to feel connected

I wish you a lightful time however you choose to spend it ♥️

[Honey19Joy in reply to Hidden]

Tell the truth after my mama passed away in 2015 I did attempt a few suicides I took a pretty hard she was my best friend and my only friend I had I barely have any friends to do anything with it's just really hard wish I could get a support pet but my sister and her boyfriend won't let me cuz she has a big dog My nephew has a big dog and then my sisters have two cats I feel lonely because I don't have no pet

[Hidden in reply to Honey19Joy]

I see. I’m sorry to hear that

Where I live at least you can volunteer at pet shelters and take dogs for walk or play with cats there and other animals or help care for them. Maybe that would be a way to spend time and bond with some of the animals and maybe also meet people and make a friend

Please take care ♥️

[Honey19Joy in reply to Hidden]

Yes that I can do thank you

[Hidden]

I wish you all the best and hope it works out. I’m sorry it’s been so bad for you. My mother is still alive so I can only imagine the grief and loss you have experienced. But I also know there are other loving and friendly women out there to find and meet and connect with. They can’t replace a mother and the closeness and uniqueness of that connection but they can be your peers and friends and that is valuable and beautiful and supportive too.

I occasionally have used “bumble for friends”/“bumble BFF” when I was traveling and occasionally in my home town to meet a new friend who just moved to my city and welcome them to town. There are mostly women on there from what I’ve seen. I’ve recently made a great new friend on there It might take a few tries to find someone who is a good fit as a friend but it’s a great resource to meet new people to do fun things with and make a new friend.

I can’t think of anything else right now but to say I’m sending a prayer for you now that you will receive support and love and friendship and will be okay. Come back here if you’d like to chat. But I wish you contact and support where you live. Your time and energy and you as a person are valuable and precious. There are others out there like you wishing they had someone and who I’m sure would be happy to have you as a friend ♥️

[Honey19Joy in reply to Hidden]

Thank you

[Kinlay]

I am so sorry that you are struggling. Know that you are not alone - MANY people, even those without diagnosed depression or anxiety have a rough time around the holidays.

If you are up for it, I would consider getting a new kitten or cat. For me, when I have lost a pet, knowing that I can rescue a new one and save THAT life gives me a sense of hope. It doesn't mean I don't mourn my lost baby, but that I can turn that loss into something positive. And having a new "baby" can give you something positive to focus on during the holidays.

If this is not feasible for you, then I would reach out to any other family members or friends for some support. It's okay to let others know that you are struggling. And please keep reaching out in here. The members are fabulous! Good luck and best wishes.