why do I feel so out of control

[Brookie11]

I have always had anxiety in the background but now it's taking the forefront. I am having a really serious problem with my sister who needs help badly but doesn't want it. She is out of control and has been baker acted several times. She is an addict and has had a mental breakdown of sorts. It is so frustrating trying to get help and we have taken it to the Courts. However, her daughter is the petitioner and is not avoiding me and I don't know what to do next.

[Dolphin14]

I'm sorry you are going through this. I think your hands are tied.

Her daughter is the next of kin so she would be the one that is in charge.

All you can do is support and encourage your sister

🐬

[HopeforMiami]

Dear Brookie,I'm so sorry to hear about this. Sadly I have been there and the hard truth is that you can't help someone who doesn't want help. I forced my ex, my son's dad into rehab. He was there for months and I had great hopes because he was going along with it, and I fully supported him in every way possible. At the end, he said that he wished he could do drugs again without it getting out of control.

That's when I realized that I couldn't do anything for him and that he had to really want to stay clean. I also realized that I was becoming a mess, depression, anxiety, paranoia... And although it broke my heart, even more so for my son and his future, I had a responsibility to get help for myself and be mentally and emotionally healthy and safe.

So please don't feel like I'm telling you what you need to do with your situation because you have to figure it out for yourself. But remember that you cannot truly be there for someone unless they want you to, and that if you're not taking care of yourself first, you can't be as good at helping someone else.

I wish you lots of strength and peace of mind. And I hope you talk to your doctor ASAP and get your anxiety under control. 🙏❤️