what people say

[Junkjournal1]

Hi why is it that a handful full of words spoken by someone with no intention to make you feel bad make you feel bad. Then you can’t seem to get what they said out of your head and you feel like it sets you back in your recovery with your anxiety/depression. I know this probably doesn’t make sense without all the details but hope whoever reads this somewhat understands. Thank you if you take the time to read this and any replies 🙏.

[Trentz]

I used to feel the same as you. Sometimes people don't mean it but sometimes they do, either way it still effects us.

[Junkjournal1]

Thank you sorry you feel the same as me but it’s really reassuring in a way that it’s not just me that this happens to. Thank you again for responding. 🙏

[Isinatra]

I’m assuming you’re referring to written comments. I find it difficult sometimes to distinguish the meaning of a persons comments just because of the mode of communication. There’s no eye contact, body language or verbal cues. Emojis help convey if a person is serious or joking or whatever. If I’m tired or “off” I can take a comment in a negative way, but it also depends on how well I know a person. Sometimes that doesn’t even help if I’m in a negative space. Sometimes I ask for clarification if need be. That works the best when I’m in doubt. It beats the heck out of walking around for days mumbling to myself cuz I do enough of that anyway. 😁

[Junkjournal1 in reply to Isinatra]

Thanks for responding. Very good comments. But no the comment was made in person and looking back indeed it would have been a good idea to ask for clarification. So thank you I’m going to try that if this happens again. I love the last bit of your post sounds just like me 🤔🤗🙏

[Isinatra in reply to Junkjournal1]

😊🙏

[LifeIsThePitts in reply to Isinatra]

Ha 😆 totally understand that 😉!! Some of my most interesting conversations are between me myself and I 😜😂my head can be a very crowded space🤭

[Isinatra in reply to LifeIsThePitts]

I have to talk to myself cuz I only see my therapist every two weeks. Gotta let that stuff out or stuff it. Not good, but it gets old , right, when it’s the same old tapes going round and round and the pause button doesn’t work. Like….crazy, man. Lol

[LifeIsThePitts in reply to Isinatra]

Yep yeppers 😛😵‍💫like a dang broken record that keeps spinning the same commentary decade after decade...you'd think I'd be sick of it by now 🤦

Any news about agora? I've taken a step back this week...need a little break.

[Isinatra in reply to LifeIsThePitts]

I hadn’t heard any new news about Agora, but it doesn’t mean that it’s not out there. I’m not on HU enough anyway to keep abreast of everything.

You’ll find a therapist when you’re good and ready. YouTube does fill in when a therapist isn’t around. Atleast on YouTube the music is always better. I haven’t had a therapist yet that could carry a tune. 😁

[LifeIsThePitts in reply to Isinatra]

ULGH I lost my therapist this year due to insurance coverage changes. I still haven't gotten any ambition to look for a new one. HU and YouTube are my therapists nowadays

[LifeIsThePitts]

It's our personal insecurities and fears coming to the surface when someone says something innocuous and innocent that trigger something within us that has nothing to do with them, or their opinions about us, per se. It's our Inner filter that gets the message all messed up!

It's up to us to figure out where that trigger originates from in our past traumas or challenges, and move forward to heal the emotional wounds that keep us stuck in our history instead of living in the present. Easy to say.... MUCH harder to accomplish.

[Perriex]

Your post generated some good discussion! I often go over something someone said, and how they said it, repeatedly.

I am usually quite careful not to hurt feelings and to be considerate in how I word things. I'm a "walking on eggshells" kind of person as well, if I'm dealing with someone whom I know is overly sensitive.

It's frustrating because I end up irritated or hurt that others (at times) aren't giving me the same consideration.

And their words or actions are definitely not always intentionally hurtful.

But that doesn't seem to make the situation any easier.

~P~

[Junkjournal1 in reply to Perriex]

Thank you that’s really well put into words and just how I feel. It’s nice that we can relate but not nice at all to feel the way we do.

[Perriex in reply to Junkjournal1]

It really is good to be able to relate to each other.💜But yes... unfortunate that we are all struggling.

[Thankfulforhelp22]

I do understand and have had this happen. I am better with it now but it still occurs on occasion. I think lots of folks have this experience. I’ve even had the same thing said to me multiple times with no impact and then for some reason on one occasion it hurts me and bothers me.

[Junkjournal1 in reply to Thankfulforhelp22]

Hi thanks for understanding it means a lot 🙏🤗. Sorry you have experienced this too but glad you don’t so much now.