I went to bed really early last night and got a ton of sleep which was great. I don’t have a fever and my stomach feels ok. But I’m nervous to go to work because I don’t want fo have stomach pain again. I’m very anxious. I feel anxious in bedz. I want to push through. I could stay home but work helps
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Just give yourself the freedom to not need to make that decision with the information you have. If you feel well enough to go to work and that helps, than go. If you start to feel ill you can always go home. Get out of that bed, and get moving. Don’t give anxiety the attention it seeks. I like to pretend I have a force behind me, gently pushing me along.
Thank you! This really helps! I got out of bed and I’m getting ready for work. I’m just scared my stomach will hurt and I’m nervous to eat because I don’t want to get sick
If you eat something and you get sick what would happen? Sure, no one likes to be sick but what would that mean that makes you so nervous? It’s the secondary fear that causes us to live in the cage. The initial fear, the sensation of feeling sick or whatever it may be is a normal reaction of the fight or flight. It’s merely a chemical discharge. If you can separate yourself from it, it will run it’s course quickly and mean absolutely nothing, or require any further thought. If you are actually sick, that doesn’t require further thought either. It’ll either get better or worse and then you can make a decision. Anxiety makes us cursed with making decisions and overthinking everything. We do it without all the information in a catastrophic mindset. The key is to gather the facts and stop the catastrophic line of thinking. Give yourself a grounding thought and come back to it often. “I’m going to work, going to work makes me feel better. If I start to feel worse while there I can go home and it’s no big deal.”
Thank you that’s something I will repeat to myself today for sure. I know I need to eat. I feel hungry. I’m just scared it might make me sick or cause a stomach ache. But you’re right, if I get sick I get sick. I feel like not eating isn’t helping. Maybe that’s why my stomach hurt yesterday
They anxiety question of all questions… why. We live in the why of everything. Why do I feel this way, why is this happening to me. Why did I do this or not do that. Why did that make me feel this way. And on and on. When I learned to stop trying to figure it all out and just decide no matter how I felt was how I felt and it didn’t matter why I started to break free. Once you can accept whatever you feel it doesn’t matter what you feel. It doesn’t matter if it’s anxiety or illness, it changes nothing. Anxiety can cause illness and illness can cause anxiety. The cure is to get out of the endless loop. You can have a sicky stomach and it mean absolutely nothing. You have anxiety because your fight or flight is over sensitized and why doesn’t matter. It is. The way you desensitize it is to just let it be and accept the feelings you feel. No need to do anything, figure anything out, label anything or change anything. In time your brain will grow bored trying to get your attention and realize there isn’t really a threat and go back to sleep. Onward and upward friend. You got this!
Do you think anxiety may be the cause of the pain in my stomach? Does that happen?
Absolutely! Anxiety has many times hijacked my stomach. I’ve even vomited from anxiety. Fight or flight can cause all sorts of physical things. From what you’ve said I’d guess it’s anxiety for sure. Only way to find out is to release the anxiety, let the fight or flight run it’s course and see how you feel.
I used to feel nauseous and not get stomach aches. So this is new for me. I’m scared it’s an illness
It makes me not want to eat
The fact that you can’t let it go and keep ruminating over whether it’s anxiety or an illness tells me it’s anxiety. Anxiety can indeed make you feel sick. Even IF it’s a stomach bug, it’s still not worth all the anxiety. You’ll either catch a fever and be sick or you’ll eventually come down from the anxiety and feel better. Worrying makes us feel a sense of control in the moment, but it only leads to further anxiety. You have to just let it go. You can’t change it either way.
Thank you so much and I’m so sorry for constantly bothering you. You must think I’m a mess haha.
After reading your excellent posts, I'm thinking of retiring because my job is done 🤣
I appreciate you!!! Your words really helped me today
I'm not going anywhere just yet. Not until sufferers of anxiety with no real issue other than struggling to cope with the symptoms understand the message that acceptance works. It breaks the vicious fear-adrenalin-fear cycle in the way MindfulMoment describes and will eventually bring peace of mind and body.
I have come a long ways my friend. Good days and bad days 
I can say today I have more good than bad, I can think of a time I forgot good days even existed.
Send me a postcard when you get there. It's just a matter of time. ❤️
not at all, and you aren’t bothering me. I understand completely. I’ve been there. I’ve lived there for years. It’s horrible. You grasp for something, anything to grasp on to. And then you grasp and it doesn’t help like you thought it would so then you second guess yourself. There’s no worse feeling in the world. What I want for you is to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
It’s so frustrating because I was doing fine for months until this random thing happened. I feel like if I were strong enough this wouldn’t be happening.
If you were strong enough to outthink a primal, biological process I’d be impressed lol. Anxiety often times feels random, but it never is. It’s how we respond to that chemical process. You are still doing fine, you’re having a temporary bad few days. It WILL pass. Just let it run it’s course and don’t give it any attention. I spent years feeling like when I had anxiety I had to curl up in bed and avoid everything. When I started living again I found anxiety went way down. I still have bad days, but I no longer let them control me. Yes it feels awful, but you are safe, you are ok and you are capable.
Thank you so much. I really can’t thank you enough. I find that eating is the hardest part for me because for years I would eat and throw up because of my anxiety
I always struggle with eating when I have high anxiety. I think that’s part of fight or flight. I also always feel like something I ate has “caused” my anxiety. I have a safe food just for those times lol. Mac and cheese cups with ham cubes. The only time I eat it is when I have anxiety. It’s the sign to my husband I’m having a really bad day. It’s the sign to myself it’s safe to eat something. I generally feel better because I won’t eat all day and my sugar will go low which causes more anxiety. It makes me feel safe. Might be silly but it works so… it is what it is lol
I also have safe foods, but sometimes it’s scary to even eat the safe foods. That’s where I am right now. This morning I was able to eat a coffee cake muffin from Dunkin. I don’t feel hungry but I know I should eat. Today feels slightly better than yesterday but idk I’m waiting for it to go wrong
Nothing is going to go wrong, because you are going to accept it as it comes. No matter what it feels like, you are safe, you are ok. Anxiety is a lie, all the fear that you feel is made by your response. It’s fear of fear. It isn’t real danger even though it feels like you’re about to tumble over the edge. There’s nothing over the edge, I’ve been there. I’ve been to the very bottom of anxiety, rolling panic attacks that won’t stop for days and days and days. It’s just more of the same. By accepting, I was able to put a stop to it, quite quickly actually. You DO have control over it. You just have to stop being afraid of the sensations. Acceptance is the only way through. Acknowledge what you feel, accept those feelings and remind yourself it’s just a chemical discharge, there is no real danger. The more you fight the more your brain thinks there is a real danger and will increase the effort to get your attention with more anxiety. The moment you stop caring and stop being afraid your fight or flight will see there’s no u seen danger and your parasympathetic nervous system will kick in and bring calm. Deep belly breaths in the nose, longer out through the mouth to trigger that sympathetic system.
You are so wonderful. You have no idea how much i appreciate you
1Daisy, I'd save every one of these posts from MindfulMoment and refer to them if you feel you need a gentle reminder not to do anything about those pesky symptoms.As you lose your fear and respect for the symptoms, you will find that your resilience increases to the extent that if symptoms do return [recovery is not a smooth trajectory and setbacks are to be expected] you will no longer crumble in the face of anxiety because you will have passed through the symptoms so many times previously, you know exactly what you need to do. Absolutely nothing.
Acceptance will become second nature to you and will carry this "tool" around with you for ever, not that you will need it because you will have lost your fear of anxiety and won't care if it's there or not. Conquer the fear and you conquer anxiety. ❤️
I am so glad I found this thread...I too have been struggling daily...I am separated with wife of 31 years..going through divorce..had to move to apartment..away from our beautiful home..had spinal fusion May 2, R rotator cuff surgery June 29..I feel alone and anxiety is high daily..recovery is going well..but my head and thinking is mush..its hard to concentrate on anything..selling house,buying a small place,moving..can't afford living in Austin Texas,moving..money to live....its wearing me out..but seeing posts and kind answers like this give me hope..I see a therapist ,24 years sober, AA meetings and friends, other support friends and family....but this is one of the most sad,anxious,confusing, tiring times I have ever had...Thank you Daisy...I wish you strength and less anxiety...Mindful moment...❤❤❤ responses and Beevee
I sympathize with everything you said. I have been suffering with really bad anxiety for this whole year. At times, it felt like was improving, but now has been really rough again. Sometimes I just lay down and don't move for hours and hours. Sleeping is my one time where my brain is not constantly overthinking everything. It is tough for me to leave the house sometimes, but once I do I usually feel better. I have been crying a lot, feel like I will never feel better for more than a day or two. It is debilitating and I would do anything to just make it stop. I hope work goes ok for you today and that you start to feel better.
I am so sorry to hear that. Please know that you are not alone. Anxiety is so challenging. Do not let this moment of anxiety take away from your improvements. You have improved! We all have bad days/periods of time. It’s okay. Sometimes we need to let ourselves rest. I went to bed at 7pm last night because of my anxiety and it was such a great decision. Anxiety is exhausting. Be kind to yourself and give yourself grace. You are doing the best that you can❤️
Listen to yourself, that was brilliant daisy
For some reason it’s much easier to say to someone else!
now you can speak that to yourself, in a mirror or in a journal or on notes that you hang on the wall or put on the bathroom mirror or behind the faucet.
”be kind to yourself and give yourself grace” beautiful.
Sometimes I feel like I can’t tell myself those things because I feel like I’m not doing a good enough job.
you’re doing the best that you can right now. say that to yourself too! its going to be ok daisy. I can feel your worry but at the same time I sense how much you want to feel better.
I also find it easy to encourage over giving myself that encouragement, I’m doing that right now, I’m completely stuck. helping others helps oneself I believe.
I am so sorry you are stuck! You are so strong. If you ever need a friend I am here
that’s very kind Daisy425 , thank you
Thank you!!
I agree it is a lot easier to tell someone else these things than to try and tell yourself them. I think I have a hard time acknowledging the progress I make. Lately, with how I have felt, it feels like I am starting all over again when I was at my very worst. I have always been very hard on myself and this is no different. I feel like I am doing something wrong, to feel like this and want to fix it, but sometimes am unsure as to HOW to fix it. It has all taken so much longer than I wanted, but I read somewhere that we shouldn't put a timeline on these situations. You, also, are doing the best you can. I hope you start feeling better soon and that we can both talk about the progress we have made ❤️
I cannot wait until the day we can talk About our progress. I am so proud of you for pushing through. Anxiety is a beast
It is the absolute worst. I used to be anxious about things that now seem so silly to me; after going thru all of this, it makes you realize what/who is really important. I am glad you are fighting through it also. I do believe everything happens for a reason and that there must be a reason why this has happened, but it is a huge struggle to find much good in this situation. I hope you are able to get something positive out of it also. My issue is I am a planner and always want to know what is coming next and be prepared, but I have no idea what to expect with this and that really scares me. I want to stay positive, but I fear more anxiety is coming.
I struggle with that! I’m constantly waiting for the next bout of anxiety. Even now as I am getting better I find myself wondering what tomorrow will bring, thinking about what will happen if I don’t feel better. I pray that I keep getting better but the unknown is scary.
I will have moments where I feel "normal," and like it isn't bothering me, but they never seem to last long enough and then I am right back to being anxious again. Sometimes I wake up in the morning totally dreading what the day will bring and just want to not get up. When I worked the two jobs, I always had to go in early to the one job and would be tired a lot. Now, with only the one job, I have a lot of days where don't go in until the afternoon. I sleep later than I ever used to and it is the depression doing it, unfortunately.
I can relate. The mornings are so hard for me. I get up and think about how I have another long day to push through. For me, as much as I struggle getting up, I find work an escape. I’m surrounded by people and I don’t have time to think too much about my anxiety. It’s so hard. You are doing your best!
And look at you now, you're stronger than you think. 💪
Once I can focus on something else, I feel better. Is just hard to find my focus on other things sometimes.
I totally understand! My mind is focusing on the uncomfortable feeling anxiety brings, which makes it hard to push through
How did your day go today?
It was better! Thank you so much for asking. The morning was tough. I nibbled on my muffin throughout the morning. By lunch I felt better and had an appetite. I ate soup and got Cheetos from the vending machine. Not the healthiest choice but it sounded good. My stomach pain is not really there anymore. For dinner pizza sounded good so I have some in the oven but if I’m being honest I’m terrified to eat. I don’t want it to make me sick. Whenever I’m anxious I feel like I should only eat bland foods, but then I find it harder and harder for me to get back into a normal eating routine
I can totally understand that feeling. I don't eat when I am anxious. Also, the prescription I am on, when I am hungry, has given me more of an appetite (especially at night) and I have gained more weight than I have wanted. So I am still eating during the day but trying to watch how much. I say as long as you are eating something it is ok. I went thru a time where I barely eating anything, not drinking water and I kept being told I needed to eat even if didn't feel hungry. So even if is just a snack or even a protein shake, at least is something to try to keep your strength up.
I ate a piece of pizza and want more, but I’m scared it’ll make me sick
Have you given it some time in between? I think if you tell yourself it will make yourself sick, then it probably will. My struggle is with my skin and being afraid something is biting me when it is most likely my anxiety triggering the symptom. I know is easier said than done, believe me.
I struggle with telling myself is "just the anxiety" and not something worse. I have the awful habit of googling stuff and getting stuck on it for hours. I have improved in trying not to look up health related stuff, but is still hard to not do it
I have such a fear of throwing up, so any time my stomach is uneasy or hurts I get anxious. And often times the reason why my stomach feels that way is my anxiety. I’m just so worried I’ll get sick from the pizza
I understand. There have been times where when I am anxious, I have made myself throw up just to settle my stomach down because I always feel better afterwards. I would say just eat a tiny bit to start and see how you feel before having any more.
What sort of imbalance do you mean? And how does it do more harm than good?
Thank you. I don't class myself as a scholar. I class myself as a person who overcame anxiety and depression through acceptance of the symptoms, as described by the late Df Claire Weekes. Look her up.
Sorry but I disagree. Anyone can recover from anxiety when they understand what they are dealing with [i.e. acknowledging it], that anxiety develops in a chronological pattern and that our natural instinct to fight, suppress or avoid that discomfort has the opposite effect because that fuels the anxiety fire.
In many cases, a chronic anxiety sufferer's only problem is the struggle they have with the symptoms of anxiety itself. They have forgotten what might have caused the onset of anxiety and developed a fear of those symptoms which keeps the cycle going.
And as you have just said youself, you have to accept the problem before you can fix it so it looks as though you agree that acceptance does work. I know it does.
Good luck with your recovery and suggest you join a forum to help you with your anger management issues. There is nothing here for you.
I sense you have fallen off the wagon and need help.
Apparently, there is something or someone at your work that is causing concern for you. Sometimes it is of value to discover the root of the problem that is causing your stress. I have discovered that sitting down with a pen and pad and writing down all my thoughts and feelings about the problems (in your case your work) will clarify what is going on with me. It can be a long process. Then try to figure out solutions (options) to deal with the problems. The process of writing this is amazing in how it can bring the real problem into focus so the real solution will emerge. I pray that you will emerge happy and healthy having dealt with the issues successfully. Shalom.
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