Hello friends, I’m new here ☺️

[BellaMarie21]

I’ve been through a self journey of trying to love myself. Being almost 400 lbs, I knew it was time to do some thing. So I had gastric bypass, and I started eating differently and working out. That was back in 2011, and while I’ve had my ups and downs of taking control of my life and put more important on what I was eating and honestly fitness is super fun to me now that I’m even in a group that goes weekly.

I got divorced in April and while that’s the best thing that happened to me because I found the love of my life right after. He was everything I thought he should be and he loves me for me. But I can’t love me. I can’t look in the mirror and see what other people see. I can’t ask for help because I should be able to do it on my own right? I’m struggling with my anxiety when things go super crazy for me. I work as a nurse and I work two jobs so I’m always tired. wine has definitely been my friend.

I guess I’m trying to get out of my fight or flight response that I’ve been in for months. I can’t talk to anybody that hasn’t been there in my situation. My friends are so supportive and so great. Don’t understand how hard it is for me. I have two boys that I have to keep pushing forward for and I’ll continue to try. But some days are easier than others. Sending hugs to anyone that needs them today. ❤️

[mizzou7016]

ma'am you've pretty much answered your own question. Some days we have great spirits and can do great things.....some days it is all we can do to get out of bed and get a shower. Although we think we should be able to do it on our own...sometimes, we need help and guidance from someone else...unfortunately that falls under the mental health stigma that goes on in our lives....It is okay to not be ok.....it is ok to say...I can't do this on my own...help me...I had my gastric bypass in 2017. At my biggest i was 312 pounds....I've been able to maintain 65 pounds of weight loss in the 6 years since my surgery....you can do anything you set your mind to...and although it is great to do it for others....don't forget to do it for yourself too. look at the non scale victories you've accomplished....in addition to what you've done....YOU'VE GOT THIS!!!

[BellaMarie21 in reply to mizzou7016]

Thank you so much for those words of encouragement ❤️

[mizzou7016 in reply to BellaMarie21]

I also just posted another thing..it is ok to put yourself on your priority list....you can do this..it is important to put self care on the agenda.....it's how we get better

[Agora1]

Hi BellaMarie21. I'd like to Welcome you and thank you for becoming a part of

our virtual friends community. Here we look at the heart and soul of a person in

virtually getting to know them. We support each other through our journeys because

we care and we understand. So with that my "BeautifulMarie", I extend my hand to

you as a new friend. My best to you xx

[CLB1125]

I am so proud of you! What you have accomplished is incredible. I was told to look in the mirror every day and find one thing you like about yourself. I struggle to find anything. But I try. I’m glad you are here!!

[BellaMarie21 in reply to CLB1125]

Thank you so much. I know the struggle is hard to find a good thing when you’re brain is trained to see the flaws. But I’m proud of you for not giving up. I’m so glad to be a part of this group. Your support means everything right now and I hope to be able to give you the same

[Thankfulforhelp22]

You should not expect to do it on your own. Help, understanding and support are needed and that’s true for everyone. I need and get it.

By the way, you sound like an amazing person.