Need Help

[Piyush_17]

Hello, everyone. I often find myself in battles with my thoughts and painful feelings. If any of you have discovered tools or strategies that have helped you cope, I would greatly appreciate your recommendations and insights

[Stippler]

I have many similar issues. The hardest thing for me to remember is probably the most helpful. It is, to go easy on yourself and cut yourself some slack every time you need it. Bad times are only temporary. Sending best wishes and positive energy.

[Piyush_17 in reply to Stippler]

Thank you so much for your well wishes!

[Piyush_17]

Thank you so much for your help! I truly appreciate it.

[Shield_Of_Faith]

I'm sorry your going through this. I don't have the best advice because of I'm going through it too still. I wake up everyday at war in my head. I question my existence alot. I guess I'm saying your not alone. I hope in time you feel better. 🙏

[designguy]

One of the best things you can do is learn and practice simple mindfulness meditation to be able to become more aware of your thoughts and be able to observe them and be able to detach from them thereby realizing they have no power over you. I do it by just sitting, focusing on my breath and letting whatever thoughts come and go like clouds in my mind and try not to react to them but just let them go. If my mind wanders too far I just focus on my breath again and being it back to the present. It takes time and practice but it works.

[Piyush_17 in reply to designguy]

Thankyou you so much for your response.

I just practiced mindfulness and will get better at this skill soon.

[designguy in reply to Piyush_17]

You're welcome glad you've found it helps you, keep practicing. One of the things that has helped me with the feelings of anxiety/depression is just sitting with them and even trying to make them more intense and being tolerant of the uncomfortable feelings. A lot of time it's our resistance to the feelings and also the thoughts that causes us the most pain and not the feelings themselves.

[Piyush_17 in reply to designguy]

thankyou so much I just practiced it and it doesnot stop the anxiety but its free me up to do things I like even if the uncomfortable feeling are present.

[designguy in reply to Piyush_17]

You are very welcome and you are on the right track, it's not about making the uncomfortable feelings go away but instead being comfortable enough with them to get on with things and eventually you will realize it doesn't matter if you have them or not.

[Piyush_17 in reply to designguy]

bro I practice today what you said, like letting those feeling to be their and focus on the task in hand but what I found that I unconsciously start avoiding or start fighting with these feeling in order to focus on the task.

[designguy in reply to Piyush_17]

It takes time to retrain your brain and body to accept the uncomfortable thoughts and feelings so just continue to bring your focus back to your task when it gets off thinking about the anxiety. Realize that this is not about making the anxious thoughts and feelings go away but about accepting them so you no longer fear them. Over time, your mind will get caught up less and less with the anxiety. One of the things I started doing was daring the anxious feelings and thoughts to get bigger and stick around longer, I even started laughing at my anxious thoughts and making fun of them, it helped.

[Piyush_17 in reply to designguy]

yeah that's what Erp