Intrusive thoughts of Ex

[Sushi2345]

I can’t get over my ex for the life of me and it’s almost been a year . Thoughts pop up of her all day long , I get flashbacks of our relationship, fear at times , scared to leave my house since she lives close to me . What is this ? Trauma ? PTSD ? C-PTSD? It’s super sad . I’ve done EMDR and had two sessions and I found that it made me worse. It wasn’t the healthiest relationship at all with her Thank you 🙏

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EMDR is certainly hard core. I did some sessions and it was successful but I'm living in a current trauma and it's hard to compete with the present and the past. Hard to say what it is you have.....but you are clearly in a sad place and depression may be a part of the puzzle. Have you tried any type of talk therapy? I know how hard it can be to live close. I get paranoid that I'll see my Ex all of the time! We co-parent and I literally do not see him on exchanges because it's a trigger for me. I know more folks will have some good suggestions for you!

[TangledUpIn]

I empathize, my ex is 6 blocks away and we live in a small community yet in a big city. Seeing my ex is a huge trigger for me that can easily turn into a panic attack. That's how much of a trigger my ex is for me. 😬

[Sushi2345 in reply to TangledUpIn]

So how do you cope with everything? How can I just sit in my house and be at peace and not feel afraid she might show up on my driveway or bump into her at the grocery store? How to get rid of the trauma?

[TangledUpIn in reply to Sushi2345]

Sushi2345, I'm in the same boat as you! I wish I had words of wisdom for you but honestly I think I will only be at peace if I move. I'm sorry we are going through this, it absolutely makes your world get smaller, when you are working so hard to avoid someone.