Regret and worry

[4Itchy]

I replay my past continually feeling hurt and pain constantly. I worry about pain coming to me in the future and it makes me fearful and agitated. I do not know how to live in the moment.

[Hidden]

let it all happen and cope in your own time or let it go release free your mind

[4Itchy in reply to Hidden]

Thank-you for caring. I have a lot of work ahead of me.

[dwhp]

Hi 4Itchy,

Thank you for reaching out. You're on the way to healing. No need to regret or worry. Whatever happened int he past ALREADY happened. You have every chance to make things better now. If your thoughts come back to haunt you, you can learn how to manage them via various websites that offer resources on controlling negative thoughts.

As for worry, that's inevitable. We think about the future therefore we worry. If we didnt' worry that means we already have a plan of action for everything. if you worry that means you feel you're not prepared to deal with what's ahead. Go find out what your fears are and learn how to deal with them. I assure you once you learn, you will feel like a big rock lifted off your shoulders.

Hope you succeed in your path! Have a great rest of the week!

[4Itchy in reply to dwhp]

Awesome advice. I am hopeful...

[Rituals]

I can totally relate. Try & let it go. Try & find a focus.

[Hidden]

I can definitely relate and have been working on controlling worry/regret and staying in the moment. Consider, in no particular order: meditation, yoga, walking, exercise, reciting affirmations (which you come up with yourself), paying attention to your thoughts in a non-critical way to catch your "bad" thinking habits; awareness is the start of change. It's hard. Everyone deals with it to some degree. Don't give up. Good luck.