How do I fit in with the world?

[Carstb1]

I am afraid I will never have friends or a life where I am self reliant. No treatment so far has helped me get my mind right to where I can function. How do I fix it? Where can I hang out with others? I can't concentrate on anything long enough to learn a trade or get certified in what I love which is animal care. I sit in my dark room with no hope in sight. I can't even be around my own family because I get so angry at everything they say or do. How do I stop this?

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Start small with voluntary work or part time or few days only until you feel more comfortable and confident. Few jobs I had were hard but there is always someone around to provide with help you need. Go for job that requires team or something is another useful method to gain experience and insight into the job Go for it!

[Marysblue]

There are new treatments coming out...A quicker, better targeted TMS.. it will be a game changer.

Could you go volunteer at an animal rescue? You will meet some nice people there.

Keep up the search for treatments and practice good health, self care.

[Tealpillow in reply to Marysblue]

could you tell me more about the TMS?

[Marysblue in reply to Tealpillow]

Called Saint.. i know it's available in Vegas, LA. Google it, it works in 5 days of 10 treatments I believe.

[Pablomybestfrien]

Consider going out for daily walks, they help a lot instead if sitting in the dark room. And therapy! We are all here for you too. We are all in this together

[tomoke39]

I have the same problem, but I like to be alone more, but not to feel lonely.

[Dark_rose]

You know where the problem is ? , it's that you're focusing on "you can not get a normal life " instead of "focusing on what you love to do " , I mean you don't have to find a therapy to live your life , a therapy can help you , but only if you start from yourself first . Don't take it hard , 《just go with the flow》 , doing what you love which is animal care you can do it step by step just enjoy it instead of thinking about being certified or not , who told you you need to be certified in what you love to do , please just do it and enjoy the moment without thinking about what's going to happen next . Don't think or blame yourself for not completing something like the others do. You're not the others , you are yourself, you are different and these mental or psychological problems are making you and your life's journey different and unique , that's your power . "Do it your way , that's what makes you special " .

[CLB1125]

You are not alone. We are all here because of mental issues. We are all unique in our symptoms but still share a common problem. we understand how disheartening it is. Start small. Take walks. See if any vet offices or animal shelters can use some volunteers. I know our shelter is begging for help all the time. We have a program here where people come in just to cuddle the kittens. If you're not up to dealing with the public right away, maybe they have something like that or walking the dogs. If you like big animals, see if there are any stables or farms around you that might need help. It's a start. I totally get about getting irritated with family members. I've been married for 40 years, looking at the same man for that long can drive you nuts!! There's days I don't even want to look at him, even when he hasn't done anything. We are here for you!

[Tealpillow]

another way to make a difference from the comfort of your home (I get too anxious to leave) is to help scientists identify animals on your computer - and I mean ALL kinds of cool animals. The program is called ZSL from the London zoo and you should be able to find it by googling “instant wild”. I’m in America so anyone with the internet can help.

[Catt02]

So sorry it's so rough going for you. I too am alone in the dark, got no one to talk to. I love animals too and have done various rescues. I've considered applying for something part time, at the HS or similar facility but it's so heartbreaking to see the animals suffering, I get physically sick. I can hardly get through each day from extreme depression/anxiety. Also recovering Benzos, 6 years still a nightmare.

[JkBauer]

Good afternoon,

I am sorry that you are struggling so! Have you thought abou8t5 getting involved in a support group, (Maybe through a church)? Ask your doctor about some recommend for support groups. Like people have said below, try getting out and do some volunteer work; (Serving food at the rescue mission, salvation army, meals on wheels...)

Above all start talking to God! Ask Him for help, cry out and express your feelings and thoughts to Him! How about getting a notebook and start keeping a journal? You can start a "Gratitude section" ( Write down 10 things that are positive everyday. Here are two hat you start with; 1). You have family who loves you! 2). You have a warm bed to sleep in every night!, now you can continue! ) Next section of the journal, you can keep an account of your day and how it is going.

What kind of things catch your interest? Do you enjoy walking, writing, fishing, baking, gardening, reading, computers, wood working, crafts, hiking, bicycling... maybe you can take a welding class or pottery, maybe you might enjoy learning about history...? The possibilities are endless!

Get creative and open up your windows and let the light shine in!

God bless you!

[ILoveBigYaks]

I would check out Brene Brown's work on fitting in vs. belonging. I don't think any of us ever really fit in. I'm 47 and living in a foreign country. I don't ever fit in. I've lived in six countries now, including the US -my birth country- and I don't fit in there either. However, the older I get, the more I find that belonging is enough.

If you feel angry at your family, anger is giving you a message. It's telling you to understand what's under the anger. Did your family abuse you with shame or otherwise? Are they a good fit for you? Sometimes, parents and kids just don't mesh; our parents can't see us for who we are and we don't fit with them. We have to find our own chosen family and do therapy to process through our trauma or hurts from our biological family. It's hard work, but it helps get rid of that anger. I went no contact with my family and my life is way better, but it is not for everyone. My family system is dysfunctional and I'm their problem child, so I got tired of being the problem and left. There's more to that story than I want to tell here, but therapy helped me realize my role in my family system and how I was being treated. Sending a safe digital hug if you want. Family stuff can be rough.