So stressed

[Dolphfan47]

I am so over everything today. My husband is blaming me because he has to work. He is staying the only reason he bought the truck is because I’m so up in the air about leaving. Because when I get mad I am ready to throw in the towel and walk out the door.. He’s 50 years old I am on SSDI for several things I don’t get that much how the hell does he expect my pay to cover ( his girlfriend their kids, our expenses) as it is I only can cover the mortgage and car payment. I am just so over it everything I am so tired of him blaming me because he had to get a truck. Like grow up for real dude provide for your extended family I didn’t ask for you to get another women pregnant or bring her into our home but you did. They are trying to have yet another child because the selfish witch wants a boy…. I just can’t deal I am so close to having a nervous breakdown it’s not even funny.. Yesterday was my birthday he bought me some charms for my pandora bracelet, a t-shirt and a Charlie bear (very expensive) but he also bought her one and a $60 carousel for Mothers Day along with a pandora charm stating because she got gyped at Christmas ( I got a $600.00 laptop) she only got gyped a $100.00 he spent $260.00 not sure how much the charm was all I’m getting for Mothers Day is a charm and a T-shirt. I know it’s not about the money but for real he caters to her because she claims that she had a rough life no friends he tried to tell me she is deprived. Seriously what about me and our son what about my feelings. Today is just not a good day!

[Agora1]

Hi Dolphfan47, I'm glad you came here to release all that stress you are holding

in. You all have a unique relationship for sure in which no one really wins. I feel

sorry about you and your child needing to share his attention. I know you have a

roof over your head and he seems to buy equally nice gifts for you both but is it

worth giving away your dignity and peace of mind? It sounds like your husband

hasn't grown up quite yet. He wants his cake and eat it too. What happens down

the road when the pot of gold runs dry? Who will leave first? Are you by chance

"sister wives" or were you duped into thinking you would do anything to keep

your man? I honestly don't know the answer. I feel for you because I care xx

[Dolphfan47 in reply to Agora1]

I was forced into this relationship because “he fell in love with her picture online” he forced me into accepting this women into our home I didn’t know that when she got involved that I was going to be ignored and put on the back burner for a couple of months he stopped having sex with me. All his attention and time was focused on her than she got got caught still talking to other guys (after she was pregnant) than he really starting obsessing about her past and her as a person,, just recently he started having sex win me again and he expects me to just let the past two years go and get over all the hurt he has put me through.. I am his legal wife bur he treats her more of a wife than me. I just feel like I am the nanny since I am always watching the kids so they can always go and have private time. My 4 tear old even notices.

[Agora1 in reply to Dolphfan47]

Are you able to afford counseling? It's such a complicated situation that needs

the help of a professional therapist to help you think straight. Sometimes we do

things for the sake of love and it backfires but we do learn from our mistakes.

I'm sorry for the hurt you are going through as well as your 4 year old.

Your hurt runs deep, I can feel it in each word you write. I hope you are able to

get some outside help. The situation there is not good for any of you. Please keep

us updated. Know that you always have a place to come 24/7 when you need a friend

and a kind word or two. I Care dear xx

[Diamond99]

hey my name is Desiree it’s nice to meet you I am so sorry that you are going through all of this I can’t imagine how hard it must be if you need a friend or just someone to talk I am here for you ok