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Living with technology can be so stressful.

2 months ago•53 Replies

I really struggle with so much tech stuff, from online banking and paying bills.

Although i run a business, and do it successfully after a fashion, i get totally bogged down with dealing with everything.

This morning i changed my car,but garages no longer accept cheques for payment, you have to do it online, and what a kerfuffle its been,i have wasted most of the day trying to make payments due in part because i did'nt have a card reader, and i had to phone the bank to get it authorized which has taken forever.

And now i'm waiting for my insurance company to phone me back because I've had to change the policy.

I am reluctant to say so but i cannot get used to using a mobile phone, and it makes me feel useless, how stupid am I.

I get by very well working on my desktop computer but as for having everything on my phone,well,i just cant hack it.

I do suffer with ADHD and therein lies the problem.

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Xene2 months ago

Totally agree with you. I’m a technophobe and technology drives me crazy😡 Have you noticed how customer service is a thing of the past? All you get to talk to is a robot and if you want to talk to a human being on the phone you have to wait for ever or hang up! 😅

MadBunny in reply to Xene2 months ago

Oh yes. The menu- press 1 for this, 2 for that.....Drives me mad !

LilyAnnepuppy in reply to MadBunny2 months ago

And don’t ya love, “Listen closely, as our menu options have changed?” No they haven’t. They’re the same ones as last year!

MadBunny in reply to LilyAnnepuppy2 months ago

Haven't had that one yet😊

Xene in reply to MadBunny2 months ago

Don’t I know it!😅 I’ve decided all businesses have a deal with the phone companies and the longer they keep you hanging on once you’re connected they get paid a percentage of that call!😂 Obviously technology has some great advantages but some of the disadvantages aren’t far behind!

secrets22 in reply to Xene2 months ago

i have told several companies i dont wish to talk to a damn machine, whatever happened to personal service, it doesn't exist.

MadBunny2 months ago

I'm with you on that one. I do pay my credit card bill on line , but that was only reluctantly because I couldn't go to the bank during lockdown. I don't think I've used a cheque for years. In fact, Im not sure I've even got a cheque book.

I appreciate that it is convenient for some , and to a lot of people, it's second nature- each to his own-but what about the ones who can't/ dont want to use it.

Personally, I wouldn't like to have everything on my phone.

Xene in reply to MadBunny2 months ago

Yep and all the high street banks have been shut down and you have to travel miles to go to one! I feel really sorry for older people, no wonder they’re taken advantage of even on their landline phones! I got a scam saying there was a warrant out for my arrest for tax evasion, scared the life out of me till I realised it was a scam.

MadBunny in reply to Xene2 months ago

We're still ok where I live - one bank has closed so far.

secrets22 in reply to Xene2 months ago

Oh blimey,that would have worried me sick to, its scary goings on now. And as for the banks, its outrageous, if i wanted to go to my bank i would have to travel to Bristol,and its not on.

waitingame7 in reply to secrets222 months ago

Are there none in Nailsea?

MadBunny in reply to Xene2 months ago

Spoke too soon yesterday🙄Just had a letter to say my branch is closing in August. The nearest is a good 20 mins drive away. Good job I get my bus pass this year lol

Xene in reply to MadBunny2 months ago

Oh no what a pain in the backside! Can’t remember the last time I stepped inside a bank, last time I rang them I couldn’t answer one of their security questions (brain like a sieve) and they wouldn’t talk to me and hung up😅

in reply to MadBunny2 months ago

hi R and m bunny i dont do anything on my phone exept come on here lol i hate talking to robots on phone and the waits you can go out for the day come back and still be on hold or cut off🙄i dont do online banking i use cash at supermarket, im not looking forward to getting new phone im used to this i wish we couls go back to the days of bartering then we wouldnt be worrying about money, im dreading the day the uk changes to digital currancy only,just hope doesnt happen 🤗xx

MadBunny in reply to 2 months ago

I suppose the younger generation won't have a problem when they're our age as they will be used to it . Goodness I am sounding like an old f**t lol

in reply to MadBunny2 months ago

thats because you are 😁yeu man g grandkids teach us stuff im low on charge again 🙄😁

MadBunny in reply to 2 months ago

I readily admit it lol

hypercat54 in reply to MadBunny2 months ago

Well if you are an old fool then most of us over a certain age are! I remember when young when my parents struggled with anything to do with technology (and there was much less then) thinking the same about them!

Now I find myself apologising to them even though they are long gone!

Weatherwoman in reply to hypercat542 months ago

Totally agree with you & all the others that have written. I am in my 70's & am Tech. challenged. Can't just blame it on my age as I have trouble putting a Macy's Box together. But, with this digital age, I'm Lost! Have no one to help me, now, as my Sig. Other passed away last Nov. My Mom & Dad are gone & my Mom passed in 2020, but she never even had an answering machine. We used to laugh at her; but, I do Get her much more now! I Hate talking to a robotic machine on the phone, and getting a Live Human is near impossible these days. Even tho., my Sig. Other was in electronics, we both longed for the "Good 'ol Days!"

Adlon57 in reply to Weatherwoman2 months ago

I'm 66, been using computers since late 90's, even remember Window's 95! Ouch! Using Laptop's since 2002, on my 13th, they are my 3rd arm, other than that, nothing, micro-wave oven first one blew up set off smoke alarm, mobile phones, terrified of them, a simple text phone [very private😝😝] actually today gave my number for prescription 😱 probably get Boots chemist adds on my text phone🤬as I have said before, definitely 20th century man, even the 'music' of today [hurts my ears!] in a taxi, they start that, I'm squirming away at the back🙄 Weatherwoman I do my weekly shopping in my local supermarket every Tuesday, boy do I need those black coffees when I get back☕☕☕AAH!

Weatherwoman in reply to Adlon572 months ago

Ha ha --Like you sense of humor! I'm definitely in that other Century, too!

secrets22 in reply to 2 months ago

hey M,like you i try to use cash in most places, and if we dont we will be a cashless society, which means all our privacy will be eroded x

in reply to secrets222 months ago

hi love yes i cant bear thought of it xx

Adlon57 in reply to secrets222 months ago

Over here in Norn Irelan , they try to get rid of ATM's altogether, make everything Card's only, in other words make money things of the past💥

AnxiousSilver2 months ago

"I am reluctant to say so but i cannot get used to using a mobile phone, and it makes me feel useless, how stupid am I.

I get by very well working on my desktop computer but as for having everything on my phone,well,i just cant hack it."

I "try" to use my cell phone for strictly, "browse internet/text/calls". (rarely anything else)

Why? Simple, If you lose you're cell phone, it's kinda like losing your wallet.

Anything else I try to do on my computer.

MadBunny in reply to AnxiousSilver2 months ago

Yes thats all I use my phone for.

secrets22 in reply to AnxiousSilver2 months ago

You are correct.

hypercat54 in reply to AnxiousSilver2 months ago

Ha ha all my friends of the same age seem to have smart or android phones and they kept insisting I get one too.

I did but never managed to get the hang of it so got rid of it. It was smarter than me so had to go

Roxylox2 months ago

Technology has made things hard for a lot of us. I think it's quite unfair.

AnxiousSilver in reply to Roxylox2 months ago

"Technology has made things hard for a lot of us. I think it's quite unfair."

In a way, yes I agree with you.

But, in some ways it made things earlier as well.

For starters, this website was made because of technology, and being able to connect with people all over the world is kinda neat.

The ability to send and receive emails has made life easier for some.

& Heck, the ability to order goods and services online is nice too.

IMO - We had a good run with technology, until probably social media, and trying to get cell phones to do too much too soon was where I said, "Yeah... we probably went a little bit too far."

Of course all of that is just my opinion.

secrets222 months ago

its not only a trek its the parking when you get there.😱

Xene2 months ago

Oh my word, you’ve certainly got a lot of patience! Unless it’s a matter of life or death 10 minutes is usually my limit for holding on 😂

Arymretep2 months ago

The thing I hate is having to remember so many different passwords for each account as they tell you not to use the same one , it’s a nightmare 😳

secrets22 in reply to Arymretep2 months ago

And then they tell you not to write it down, who on earth can remember every password.?😱

Arymretep in reply to secrets222 months ago

Not at my age for sure 🤣

MadBunny in reply to Arymretep2 months ago

Nor me 🤣

AnxiousSilver in reply to secrets222 months ago

I think at some point in my life, I'll end up using a password manager.

But I'm going to hold out with that for as long as I can.

bethelbee in reply to AnxiousSilver2 months ago

I use Google password manager and it makes things so much easier!!

AnxiousSilver in reply to Arymretep2 months ago

I'm alright with memorizing passwords, it's just when they want you to memorize capital letters and symbols is when it sometimes gets frustrating.

2 months ago

hi cat will post on her b day were tired the clock change hasnt helped hes been fed up with the rain, chamomile tea then bed you do well to swim must be old age with me lol too cold no energy 🤗😺

hypercat542 months ago

Oh tell me about it! My smart phone was smarter than me so it had to go!

As for doing stuff online my MO is to try and when I get stuck as usual ring them up and play the silly old woman act! It does work ha ha.

blue77moon-forest2 months ago

So comforting to hear from you and all your respondents! I have been feeling I'm the only one that is technologically challenged. My phones are a landline and a flip top cell that I hardly ever use. I had a smart phone but couldn't master it. In today's world I feel so stupid and behind the times . Technology changes so fast and I feel embarrassed that I don't text, scan payments, take photos and share them, etc.

Xene in reply to blue77moon-forest2 months ago

Hi, I wouldn’t worry too much. I reckon there’s a whole army of us technophobes out there😂

blue77moon-forest in reply to Xene2 months ago

You are right! I feel I'm not the only one now!

secrets22 in reply to blue77moon-forest2 months ago

i am so relieved i am not alone, like you i only use my landline phone mostly, and i cant take pictures and export them and i guess in truth i dont want to,i have enough to deal with already.

Adlon572 months ago

👍Totally a 20th century man! Pushed into getting a mobile phone "for greater security"😝 stick to my simple text phone!👍Push this push that! in supermarkets, kids old enough to be my grand children, snatching the stuff out of my hands, putting it through again [smooth as silk] waiting for them "oldies🙄" when they think I'm out of earshot? An oldie nightmare😤 Computers upgrading all the time, laptops was 14 months life time, probably shorter? I am a historical researcher, the amount of old files, I have on back up, the trouble is some of the original stuff, is now lost forever, computer scanned originally put on, people thought now the original is safe forever, [getting rid of original material🥴🥴🥴]trouble is the next upgrading😱🥶💩lost forever!🥴🥴

OtOFrance2 months ago

Hi secrets22

I hope you are fine ?

What ? Not being able to use a cellphone or a "smart" phone would make you someone from an other age ? Someone stupid or useless ? No No No No and No !

Each and every human being is useful. And each and every human has a job to do here, whether he is able to create an iphone application, cook a meal or make bread, we all have the same value and are all as important as each other.

You can not use a cellphone, or you do not want to, this is YOUR perfect right and it is legitimate not to. The system around you must accept this and be able to work with people who do not want, can not afford or are not able to use such "2023 slave ball".

You are FREE, this is important. Keep this freedom as the most precious thing in your life and your soul. Ask for help to those who know when you need help, and do not self judge yourself thru a stupid piece of plastic !

Much love from France

secrets22 in reply to OtOFrance2 months ago

Thankyou so much, and you are right,i dont really want to master a mobile,i have enough to contend with without all the tech stuff. And much love from leafy Somerset UK.

Thankfulforhelp222 months ago

no question that as useful and convenient as laptops and cellphones are they can really be stressful to use at times. How many of us have had our blood pressure go thru the roof because of a dropped call, fat-fingered keys, accidental deletions, confusing apps etc.

technology: it’s not all flowers and sunshine 😳😡

Even though it totally goes against my aptitude and abilities I was in IT for most of my work career. The more technical things got the harder it was for me. I did well considering and there were some situations that actually suited me. But I hate to tell people I worked in IT because they make assumptions about me that are far from true.

Best of luck in your endeavors.

Tara522 months ago

I have the same difficulty, It is so darned frustrating! I live alone and have no one to help me. My sons live very far away .😦

secrets22 in reply to Tara522 months ago

like you,i live alone and have no one to help me ,and makes life so difficult.

Adlon572 months ago

Like it, or loathe it, commercialism/technology is running our lives, mankind's individuality is slowly but surely being drawn out of this world! Less choice as the bark of technology runs our everyday world! We have to listen to computerised voices, maybe accent dubbed for the particular part of the world they are aimed at🙄 We are in a number run world, one for this, two for this, etc, etc. Then technology has to be up graded, for the faster convenience of it's users, or greater security🥱 RUBBISH! Commercialism/Technology is tightening itself further around the throat of Mankind's neck!🤬

secrets22 in reply to Adlon572 months ago

Well said and spot on.