Just really annoyed

[Bushbaby123]

This has been bugging me for quite some time now but I have always just pushed it away and never thought much of it, but the constant remarks is starting to annoy me a lot. So recently, many people have asked for my age and have assumed that I am at least 3-4 years older than I actually am, and it has really bugged me, I know I sound more mature than people, but people keep assuming that! I have actually started to avoid talking as much in front of people because and I actually hate how my voice sounds because of it! I hate it! I hate having to constantly watch what I say because people keep assuming my age, I just want to be called my age, is that so wrong, and I don’t really know how to sound my age.

[012703060610]

Any other data points you can share? Is this because you are young? I'm in my 40s so 3-4 years older wouldn't mean a whole lot. Are you being put in situations you are uncomfortable because of the actual conversation? Just trying to understand and of course help! Regardless, sorry something is really eating at you! I know how tough that is!

[Bushbaby123 in reply to 012703060610]

I should have probably specified, so I am 21 but people keep thinking I am 25, I guess this whole thing isn’t a big issue but it is actually really annoying me, people keep treating me differently, it is almost like once I open my mouth to talk, they hear how I sound or something and just don’t seem to want to spend time or even talk to me. Like I know it probably isn’t that, but it genuinely seems like it when it constantly occurs, I know it is more how I sound and looks not as much I don’t think.

[012703060610 in reply to Bushbaby123]

Ah so younger folks are thinking you are older? Listen, to sound mature is a really good quality. I think I get it. My oldest daughter has a friend that sounds years older than 11. She seems like a 16 year old ready to take on the world. She struggles in class because the other kids don't understand. I have talked to my daughter a little about it why kids were picking on her and she and my daughter are now friends. Maybe there is a positive side to the way you sound that you just can't frame it out in your mind. For what it's worth, I had a blast in my 20s but it was mostly with people older through work trips. To this day, most of my friends are about a 8-10 years older than me. They are loyal and fierce and I have learned so much from their wisdom. Nonetheless, I know life is hard and when you want to make connections and can't it is enormously frustrating. Keep sending your thoughts if it helps!