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[TheDudeIsNotHere]

Hi this is my first post here. I have been suffering from anxiety and depression for as long as I can remember. But it's gotten really bad lately. I don't want to go out or do anything. All I do is stay in bed and lay there staring at the wall. It's affecting my job but I am still able to focus when I am there. I feel scared even leaving my room to go into the kitchen. I don't want to feel like this. It's hard all I want is to be happy.

[Agora1]

Welcome new friend...Happiness is not something we can wish for because it

comes from within. Did something happen more recently to allow A&D to get worse?

I will tell you from experience that lying in bed staring at the walls is not the way to go.

We end up getting stuck in a relenting cycle of fear begets fear. As you can see that

before long we are afraid in our own house. Why is that?? I was once Agoraphobic for years

and thought I was safe from Anxiety staying in my own home. It didn't take long to find out

that the fear was so deep within me that there wasn't a safe place to hide.

Once we start addressing our fears and accepting them as not real, our anxiety starts going

down. This wasn't an overnight progression as you have had these issues for a long time.

But know that you can and you will one day be able to feel happiness again. You will be able

to gain control back of your life. I know, because I did and I am now here to pass my success

forward. I'm happy you are here with us. You've taken that first important step forward xx

[TheDudeIsNotHere in reply to Agora1]

Thank you for your kind words. The reason I think its gotten this bad is because I have not see my family in along time.

[Agora1 in reply to TheDudeIsNotHere]

It seems as if this is a very likely reason for you to feel lost and alone causing

your sadness as well as anxiety. Family is the anchor that holds most of us together.

Being away from those we love can cause Separation Anxiety. Whether this is

temporary or a long term issue, we need to find a way to address the issue through

acceptance that this is the way it is. Are you able to Face time with your family?

We have to learn to accept what we can change in life and what we can't.

Lying in bed and not going out just perpetuates the emptiness and sadness. You do

feel a little better when working because you are keeping both your mind and your

body busy.

Finding something to look forward to besides work can help. Coming onto this

site will help you focus on others as well as how they handle their loneliness.

Taking baby steps forward are likely to get you to feel better. One step at a time.

One day at a time. Let us help you walk the journey you are on and not feel so

alone. xx

[Stippler]

Welcome to the group. It is so good you have reached out. There are many good and caring people here. Please feel free to share what you are comfortable with and we will try to help you. Sending peace and calm. 🙏🙏🙏

[EndUser13]

Welcome to the forums!

I know it can be hard to go through the motions, especially when it feels like that's all you're doing, but eventually, something's gotta give. I want to be happy too, so I take the time to appreciate what is actually good while trying not to ruminate on what feels messed up- gratitude is a great path to happiness. Your post makes me think you are ready for a change, I hope you see it soon!

[bethelbee]

Welcome to the forum! Hope you're able to find support here.

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I can empathize with you as I have also suffered from anxiety and depression for a long time.

I am not sure what you have done to try to help yourself to feel better but psychotherapy and medication may be what you need at this point. I also recommend the book Feeling Great by David Burns as a good way to learn how to do cognitive behavioral therapy for yourself.

In my experience, sometimes the hardest part in doing therapy, or anything, is just making the decision to get started. I hope you find a way to help yourself to feel better.

[CAGgmb]

I've been where you are now. It took time and determination to keep looking for help. It wasn't a good way to live. What worked for me was some therapy and the right medication. I hope you find the help you need. You deserve a better life.

[catsrock]

Welcome. I'm so sorry you are having such a rough time. I can relate.

[Boston001]

I am still new here at HU and I have found this to be a safe place to express myself. Being in stuck in our own internal dialogs it's hard to see things objectively. Writing down your thoughts gets them out into the light of day, and no longer a stream of thought jumping from one thought to the next. Sharing your thoughts here, what you are comfortable with sharing, has the added advantage of having your thoughts critiqued by many people who have had or are having the same feeling as you. I don't think you will find a Guru here with all the answers you are looking for, it is a blind leading the blind kind of thing, that said, I find that reading the comments from the folks here I can build a consensus from people from many different walks of life, and through reading their stories and hearing their strategies I can assess my own path objectively. Don't be surprised if you see some comments that bother you this is the internet after all and the administrators can't filter every person's conduct. A consensus is something I can't get from talking to my therapist. Reading the room here from the folks who have taken their time commented here. I'm interpreting the consensus as. You are welcome here. Get out of your funk and keep moving. You need to advocate for yourself to get professional healthcare, Medication, and cognitive therapy. Be kind to yourself, Have good nutrition and physical activity, and plenty of rest. All of these things together will help you manage your depression and anxiety.

Personal I have also found a few people here who stray from the topic of anxiety and depression, and it gets my mind off of always feeling doomy and gloomy, we socialized, not always welcome chit-chat, but people are people, I take it with a grain of salt.

Hope you feel better soon, I hope you get outside in the sun and fresh air!

Regards Kevin

[TheDudeIsNotHere]

Thanks to all of you for your comments it make me feel like I am not alone.

[Agora1 in reply to TheDudeIsNotHere]

TheDudeIsNotHere....you are no longer alone. It is true that we are not

therapists and can only go by our own experiences. As I always say, take

what may work for you and discard the rest. Every little bit helps when

working through solutions. I'm happy you are here with us. xx

[Unmekux2]

that’s awesome that you can still work. I’ve been on disability for a long time. I know what you mean about just wanting to feel better. Meds , sobriety, and meditation have helped me over the years. Good job posting, that takes courage.

[designguy]

Hello and welcome, i'm sure you will find it helpful and supportive for you here and know that you are not alone in your struggles. It takes courage to post and be vulnerable so good for you.