Help please

[bootsandsocks]

Hi. First time posting here, and I’m not really sure how to go about this. I’m currently going through a breakup, and I’ve been struggling with overthinking and my anxiety. The breakup wasn’t mutual, and I can’t help but hold onto a sliver of hope that maybe one day we’ll get back together. Anyone have any advice for how to get over a breakup? I’ll take any help I can get. Thanks in advance.

[LilyAnnepuppy]

Whenever I’ve gotten over a breakup, it’s been hard. Letting go isn’t easy. And the grief from the loss is very painful. It takes time.

I found that walking through it a day at a time was the best answer. Talking with friends also helped a lot. I kept telling myself that I didn’t need to be with a person who didn’t want me. One of my requirements in a relationship is that it be mutual.

Of course it amped up my anxiety. The fear of being alone for the rest of my life was there. But like I said I took it a day at a time.

In April, my husband and I will celebrate 4O years of marriage. So there is hope for finding a long term partner. Hang in there

[kenster1]

hi don`t put your life on hold in the hope you get back together you will prolong the pain and may even find yourself in a worse position down the line. think of you and you only someone else will come along when your ready.

[Hidden]

hey sorry about the breakup but if it wasn’t mutual than you should move on, forget this person. and concentrate on you only for now. Holding on to hope will only prolong the overthinking and anxiety and won’t bring them back You will find someone else when the time is right. Remember that time heals all wounds. Best wishes to you.

[Hensy11]

Hi, Boots and Socks!

Welcome to a place where you can find understanding, support, and love. At times I am sure many members are in the midst of their own pain and effort to simply survive, but there are enough of us in the group so there will always be someone who can help.

When my boyfriend broke up with me, I felt like a zombie. One day while visiting a Convent where my friend is a nun, I asked what I could do to feel better. Her answer was, "Help others."

Sometimes severe depression can immobilize you, but try to keep busy. Try not to fall into the trap of putting your ex-partner on a pedestal, as if no one in the universe is as good as he. As time passes, you will be able to think about the positive aspects of your relationship but also the challenges. Don't waste your precious life hoping Prince Charming will change his mind. Leave him alone, and if he does have a change of heart, let him be the one who takes action. After all, if he really were Prince Charming, he would never have left. I don't mean to sound harsh, but I have been where you are and enough time has passed so I am able to say these things with conviction. Take it slow, pamper yourself, don't blame yourself with "if onlys." He was probably a jerk to have left you. Best wishes!