No motivation!!!

[Lou3169]

Why can't I get motivated, I'm not lazy as a rule, but feel very ashamed!!! ... Once I'm in a good frame of mind I work very hard, I feel like I'm stuck in mud and can't get out, chores seem overwhelming, I don't know why, does anyone else feel the same, please are there any suggestions of help please, I'm so down 💜

[Hidden]

hi please dont feel ashamed we all im sure have days and times like this,i certainly do im in the UK and i suffer from SAD seasonal associated disorder lack of sunlight makes me lethargic and cant be bothered to get up i do as have to for my cat and make myself go for a walk every day in my local park which gives me a lift, i am hoping to go swimming again but i cant motivate myself right now i used to force myself often before but felt so much better for going, have you had some things problems on your mind perhaps hope you feel better soon 🤗🐆🌟

[Lou3169 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much for your reply, I feel you I really do, I've had a bout of problems over the Xmas period and I've just spiralled into this mindset again .. I had really been motivated just b4 Xmas, and now this, I felt like I've been punched in the stomach along with heartache and worry, il get there, I'm in the UK too, London, I have a beautiful park a few mins walk from me, and I have my sons bike I can use, I need to get myself into gear.. today is the first time I've interacted with likeminded, I've replied to a few lovely ppl who have been so kind with replies, I've actually answered a few of my own questions in replying, I know what I have to do, its just the motivation... I need to do things around the house and I just can't get motivated, as I'm typing this to you it's making me feel awful to say it... I'm very sensitive, I really feel emotions intensly and have done since a child, I can pick up on others too, its been a rough ride, I've beeb through a bit, but il get there, thank you so much for taking the time to reply... I hope things go well with you 🙏 💓 x

[Hidden in reply to Lou3169]

bless you im very sensitive its so hard been this way but better than been insensitive, you will get there ive just had a bad few years but its moved on now my phone beeds charging now take care oh the suns out ill sit in the window 😁💛

[Lou3169 in reply to Hidden]

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[Kelkel00]

yes, I am in the same place this morning!

[Lou3169 in reply to Kelkel00]

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[Hidden in reply to Lou3169]

hi i really didnt want to move this morning so tired my cat was meowowing so i had to get up i didnt get dressed until one and id have a dressing gown day if didnt have to go out for birthday card, im glad i did tho as needed the walk as had cheese for lunch and im watching my cholestrol, its dark already and cant wait to get into my thermal long john lol and dressing gown i wear them whilst watching tv downstairs too hot for bed, how are you today 🤗🐆🌟💛

[Hidden in reply to Lou3169]

even my cat feels the same 😺

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[Celtic27]

Hi lou your just the same of a lot of people we all have down days and feel unable to motivate try finding things you enjoy and concentrate on them I wish you all the best good luck !

[Lou3169 in reply to Celtic27]

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[designguy]

Yes, I have some days of it, especially when the weather is crappy. I also am having some issues getting engaged again after being home so much from isolating from covid.

[Indiegal]

Yes I've been feeling this a lot lately too. It could be the weather or post-holiday crash, but I just don't want to do anything productive. I have my own business working from home and I just haven't been motivated to do much work. I also don't want to clean even though my house is a disaster and have only left my house 2-3 times in 2 weeks. Maybe start with one small task like wiping down and tidying up your bathroom counter or putting away the dishes just to start doing something. Or do something fun that you don't usually do to inspire you. I dug out an adult coloring book last night and it was good to do something creative to break the monotony of things. But know you're not alone as many people feel that way this time of year.

[Lou3169]

Great advise.. yes this weather doesn't help, thing is I was like this for a few years before circumstances with ex partner he was so negative, not deliberately it was so difficult as I have a chikdcwirh him, but now we live separate we get on.. I have to accept that this spiralling can happen and do my best to prevent it when I'm better, I can see how this has happened.. ❤️ 😇

[reinventingmyself36]

omg I feel the same way you do. It’s so hard for me to do the things that I need to do to help me feel better. My coping mechanism is laying in bed not going out for days watching tons of tv to distract my self hatred and dark thoughts. I rarely do chores and thankfully no one really comes over.

I was told emdr can help but they’re expensive. Do you have a therapist? Are you on meds? Maybe we can chat.

Maybe listening to music or watching funny shows/ YouTube videos can help u. I am constantly told to exercise but don’t want to but hear it’s so helpful. Do. U take walks outside? It helps me sometimes