No One Gets It

[hanginginthere55]

This week I start therapy and I can't wait! I'm a survivor of domestic violence and recently moved closer to home.

This has been bringing a lot up for me. I also have been encountering a lot of anger and negativity from previous relationships.

Everyone wants me to focus on the now. But when your heart is breaking it's hard to.

For 6 months I begged for therapy. I changed insurance so I could get it. But when you feel this way it's hard to snap out of it and be what other people want you to be.

Thank you for listening 💜

[Hb2003]

your not alone 🙏 welcome to this kind supportive site

[hanginginthere55 in reply to Hb2003]

Thank you so much

[Hb2003 in reply to hanginginthere55]

your welcome 😄

[Starrlight]

is your profile pic your hedgehog? A friend on here, Dolphin14, has a hedgehog.

Yeah I agree you shouldn’t have to feel like you should snap out of it. I say allow yourself to feel the feelings that come up and work through them.

[hanginginthere55 in reply to Starrlight]

Thank you so much. Yes it's a hedgehog ☺️

[EndUser13]

Welcome to the forums!

You need to focus on your own life, in your own way and at your own pace. It might help to gently remind people who tell you how to live your life that everyone is fighting their own battles and they are not in your shoes. That being said, it's still good to focus on the present too, you don't want to get stuck in the past, the ideal would be to be able to move past it in a healthy way. No one has your perspective or your feelings, so maybe they mean well but just can't appreciate how you feel. That has to be frustrating!

[hanginginthere55 in reply to EndUser13]

Thank you!!

[TryingSoHard66]

sending hugs and I hope each day has you feeling happier and safer. You are an amazing person to have survived and I believe with all my heart you will be okay!

[hanginginthere55 in reply to TryingSoHard66]

Thank you so much!!

[scansnap]

I am sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds like you are suffering from anxiety and depression and possibly post traumatic stress disorder. The most effective treatments for these things are therapy, meditation, mindfulness, exercise, and supportive people that you can talk to. I also recommend reading the book Feeling Great by David Burns. It will teach you how to do cognitive behavioral therapy for yourself so that you can be more effective in helping yourself to deal with your problems.

I am always troubled when I hear people getting the advice to move on or forget what happened or cheer up or something like that. This is nonsense and these problems are very real and need to be dealt with effectively.

[hanginginthere55 in reply to scansnap]

Thank you so much. I'm going to check that book out. 💜

[designguy]

Hello and welcome to the group and it's good that you are taking care of yourself and starting therapy. It's best to try to ignore the comments from friends/family since they have no idea what you have gone through even though they may mean well. Therapy will help you start to heal so don't worry about trying to snap out of it, it's a process and will take as much time as you need.

[hanginginthere55 in reply to designguy]

Thank you, that's good advice.

[Frankie24]

Domestic violence is a difficult situation to have been in. Even once out of the situation it can be a very confusing time with many mixed emotions. Be kind to yourself and take time to heal. Like everything it is a process.

[hanginginthere55 in reply to Frankie24]

Thank you, I really appreciate it.