i've come to the realisation my family dont care

[tangoprince]

my mum literally could not care about me any less, whenever i come home she shouts at me ans we just dont get along, she treats all my sisters nicely and it's like i'm just a burden for her. Im not ungrateful like she's my mum and i love her but she is just horrible and she goes out of her way to do so, i try to talk to her anout how the way she makes me feel but she just pushes me aside and doesnt even bother to try change. my dad has completely decided he wants nothing to do with me now he's having a baby with his girlfriend, I cant wait to move out but i'm scared i'm too emotionally unstable to live on my own

[Agora1]

Hi tangoprince, you certainly have a lot of issues within your family causing you stress

and worry. I may not be a doctor but from your description of pain, it sounds a lot like

Fibromyalgia. (which I have as well)

Overwhelming, daily stress, lack of sleep can cause the muscles to not relax and

regenerate. Eventually, it becomes a chronic pain with no relief from pain killers.

The pain can be bad enough to interfere with the quality of your life.

Seeing a Rheumatologist can help diagnose what's going on.

Whatever it is, know that the constant put downs can be behind your pain.

Fibro is a chronic immune disorder which may be difficult to treat but not impossible.

Stay positive. Once your issues are addressed or you move out, you will have more

control of your life and hopefully less stress. xx

[catsrock]

This sounds really hard. I too think my mom doesn't care about me or my kids. She lives with my sister and they have a very dysfunctional relationship where my sister is abusive and my mom enables her to be that way and won't move away from my sister. My mom's whole life has been about my sister and not me because my sister is very mentally ill, but won't get help and blames everyone else for her problems (I think she has borderline personality disorder but that's just my best guess). It's really tough and I still struggle with all of it and I'm 59! Anyway, just want you to know you are seen and there are people who get what you're going through. I hope you are able to move out soon and start a healthier life.

[Buntybunny]

Hi, I'm sorry you are so unhappy at home, it's understandable. My mother was the same with me, I think it was because she hated my father, who she divorced. Things did improve with time, it took a long time, but I left home at 18 and that was the best thing I could do. I became homeless after a couple of years and mother wouldn't help me. Find yourself a small flat, move into a house with other young people, get somewhere to live and move out, I'm sure you will find life will be better than what you have at present.

I'm 78 and living in sheltered accommodation, I don't recommend it unless you can't look after yourself. I'm fit and able to go places, have a car, sheltered accommodation has too many restrictions. Sometimes, young people are offered accommodation in sheltered housing, make it temporary.

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hi tangoprince! I’m so sorry for the way you are feeling about your family. I’m not sure why your mom is singling you out but for whatever the reason, this is not healthy for you. Moving out sounds like a great plan. Feeling emotionally unstable is completely understandable in your current situation. Living on your own and having more peace of mind could help you feel more stable. It can also help improve your relationships with your family. I know it’s scary; I did the same thing at your age and thankfully it saved my relationship with my family. Absence makes the heart grow fonder … be well and think about taking a chance for your own peace of mind. 🙏