I Feel Invisible ...

[Not_Free]

Lots of people who don't see me. It's like I don't exist. I know there are others here who also have felt this way. I just don't get it. Why do people don't see me or seem to care that I exist???

I'm broken.

[AnxiousSilver]

"Why do people don't see me or seem to care that I exist???"

This community cares.

[Not_Free in reply to AnxiousSilver]

Thank you.

[Starrlight]

Hi Not_Free

How are you doing?

[Not_Free in reply to Starrlight]

Not well. I'm pretty depressed and people not seeing me doesn't help me get out of this. Life pretty much sucks.

[Starrlight in reply to Not_Free]

I so hope things will be looking up for you soon. Hang in there and treat yourself well you deserve it. I see you 👀 😂

[Babe1213]

Human beings are a weird and wonderful bunch of people, none of us are exactly the same. Self knowledge is a wonderful start, but hard work in discovering 'the real me.'

A lot of people also have difficult issues themselves and feel threatened or daunted by what they see in others, we must therefore take time to come to understand each other's needs.

One of the most important things for you to realise is that YOU DO EXIST, YOU ARE VALUED, AND YOU ARE LOVED - take a look at your replies thus far, if we didn't care, we wouldn't bother to respond. But you must do your bit, this comes by learning to love yourself - as I believe GOD loves you. Stop putting yourself down!

Reading between your lines, I get the feeling you have had a rough passage through life, and have been hurt probably more than once. We have ALL been there, done that, and have the proverbial T Shirt. We have all needed to break down the barriers before we can feel the love of others without the fear of guilt, rejection, pain. When we do hurt, we have a tendency to build a brick wall in front of our hearts, this stops any more hurt getting in, it also stops the inner hurt getting out. This is something needing work on too, and believe me when I say it is hard work - but so necessary.

I hear you loud and clear when you say you are broken, you must rebuild your broken self! You have chosen a great place to begin that process, because we all want to help you achieve, as and when you feel able to share yourself with us, please know that nothing surprises us, and nothing will make us judge either you or anyone who has hurt you. Nothing in this life is free, we must therefore fight for our own freedom, which is within, wanting so much to get out. Please do come back to us and allow us to be part of your healing process. xx

[Not_Free in reply to Babe1213]

This is all so true, but soooo hard.

[Babe1213 in reply to Not_Free]

Yes it is soooo hard but with help from friends on here who do love you and care for you it is doable. Please be aware you do not have to be alone in this, we are here! xx

[Not_Free in reply to Babe1213]

Thank you, Babe1213. It would be nice if you were actually here. It's one thing to have support online and quite another to have it in person. That's not to say I don't value the support I receive here - I wouldn't be here if I didn't - but it would be nice to have people here who could also support me.

[Not_Free in reply to Babe1213]

You need to be a strong person to do what you are proposing. I am not that strong ... I don't want to crack.

[Hidden in reply to Not_Free]

I agree with you about wanting/needing in person support vs this forum. For some of us, like me, using this forum is difficult because I’m more of an “in person” kind of person. My best of intentions, and heartfelt advice don’t ever seem to translate to the degree that I think they would in person. This is a real bummer for me. I would not consider myself a strong person. I just kind of decided, over time, that life is too short to not take a chance on happiness. I had nothing to lose. Challenge yourself just a tiny bit. If it turns out badly, you can come back here and vent to me, lol. I just don’t want you to miss out on things that could be right there, so close, and I don’t want you to live with regrets later for not trying. Always here. ❤️

[Hidden]

I believe that most people care (and see you) more than you think. Maybe these people are putting out vibes that you are misinterpreting, or you could be doing the same to them without even realizing it. Or, they feel the same way you do and are hoping you’ll acknowledge them first. I have seen people when out walking my dogs who have never acknowledged me even though we see each other regularly. I’m noticing lately that if I make a point to directly acknowledge them, look them in the eye, and say something nice to them, they act genuinely surprised (and relieved) and we can then have ongoing relations that we both enjoy. Also, smile! If they don’t smile back (or seem self-absorbed) maybe they are going through a rough time themselves at that moment. Put yourself out there and see what happens. Sometimes you have to make people see you. I know it’s difficult, but it can also be surprisingly rewarding. Be well❤️

[Not_Free in reply to Hidden]

I know you're right, but I can't do it. It's soooo hard to put myself out there. I don't want to be rejected, I don't want to break down and cry when I (perceive myself) being rejected. I want people to reach out to me ... it's so much safer and I am so weak.

[Hidden in reply to Not_Free]

You CAN do it. The fear of rejection is worse than rejection alone. You must try. Putting yourself out there is scary. If you are rejected by someone then just think of it as just not the right person at the right time. Don’t dwell on it. I promise you, there are people out there you will meet and connect with without rejection. Start small and see what happens; never stop searching; you are worthy and there are people out there that will see that and will enrich you life in ways you cannot imagine. Never give up … baby steps!

[Babe1213]

Do please take heed of what KellyKay says, she is very caring and spot on in her advice! xx