Update

[artisticcatowner]

It is 5am

This is the latest I have stayed up for in a while. I have not been able to sleep. Currently mad at my mom for making everything so dang chaotic and stressful. I mean, she is a mom, but she is definetly not the brightest.

I don't know if she has ever stopped to question whether her method of parenting is the best way for somebody.

I think she just thinks that she knows me well enough, but nope.

She is disrespectful to me but I never say it because I am kind and I do not want her to worry about it, she conducts herself very loosely and it makes me very uncomfortable because I do not know her well and she does not know me well enough to be acting loose.

and during yesterdays whole crazy mess, my mom told me I am apathetic, cold hearted, and mean.

Meanwhile, I did not call her any names because I RESPECT.

ugh.

[misslillie]

You are very mature and I admire you for that. Stay centered and remain tolerant. Things will eventually change. However you will most likely meet others with your mother's tendancies. Chill. Don't take it personally and save your energy for the long run. That's my best guess.

[artisticcatowner in reply to misslillie]

Thanks

[misslillie in reply to artisticcatowner]

I know it sounds like empty platitudes. I understand. I just spent a day long road trip with my overbearing, condescending, kindhearted and generous sister. Relationships are so difficult because people are so multifaceted. I hope we both find some peace in our current circumstances.

[artisticcatowner in reply to misslillie]

lol yes

[artisticcatowner in reply to artisticcatowner]

amen to that

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

I understand that. I have a mom who's method was to win by any means necessary in an argument. I was told I was unsympathetic and unemphatic all because we had dropped off my brother somewhere. I was cracking jokes at her expense. Which she has done the same thing to me for years. Well she got annoyed and said something harsh. I was like okay Im sorry. Get home and this was during the days of Facebook Farmville lol and I realized that my crops would be ready. So as soon as we got home, I rushed passed her. To get online. I was online for well over 30mins. After that I went to take a shower. I leave the door unlocked in case she has to use the bathroom. Hell she's come in on me while I'm in the shower, no big deal cause she can't see anything. I shower and get out. I then approach her about what she said. I was like that was hurtful and mean. I wasn't being that way to you. Then she said to ride my ass. About that I'm self centered because I took a shower and she had to go as soon as we got home. But I hit with the fact I was on the computer for well over 45mins how come she didn't use the bathroom right when we got home? First time ever I actually made my mom shut up for a second. Then she said don't I care about all the things she does for me. I'm selfish and unsympathetic and unemphatic. By then the fight was taken out of me. I was like fine, you win, mom. You win.

She has since apologized for that. She realizes that was wrong for her to do.

[artisticcatowner in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL]

Big oof. I can't expect an apology from my mom but oh well.