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I just finished my first counseling appointment! I feel like it went okay, and I learned some pretty interesting things. My counselor gave me some tips and tricks on how to ground myself. But I felt like my anxiety and depression weren’t “bad enough” for me to go by the way I was explaining things out loud. I’ll likely keep going to these appointments despite that, but I just felt silly explaining my experiences.

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Agora1

Hi bookskeepmecompany..... I had therapy for years and also learned a lot of new

things. I didn't realize until a lot of years later that unless I applied them to my life

it would be going in one ear and out the other.

One day, years down the road, I had what I called my "aha moment". It was at the time

that I realized everything I had learned from the therapist could just be the key to success.

I wish you well with continued therapy...Take in everything they tell you and maybe one day

you will have your "aha moment" and find your way back again. :) xx

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SoporRose

Do keep going. It takes time for you and your therapist to become attuned to one another, to trust each other, and to establish an understanding of how you each communicate. I've been with my therapist long enough that sometimes a look is enough to convey what she means. If you like this therapist, give it at least a year.

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CL3V3R-G1RL

Well you always feel silly at your first appointments. I know I did. Its because you are getting to know them and they are getting to know you.But remember to try not to downplay you're anxiety and or depression. We have a tendency to do that to ourselves because we have gotten used to that way of living because we don't want to upset family and friends. However this person is a professional and they heard it all. So there's nothing to be ashamed of. Just let it flow.

Sometimes we even discover things that we didn't even know the two were related. Just thought of those things as separate events in our lives but they have so much more meaning in how they play into our lives now. Like me my childhood traumas caused me to have trust issues, anxiety and anger. I wasn't physically abused by my parents. They loved me very much. However there were some things that they did , that effected me very deeply. Now I have to learn how to get over it or at least learn to live with it.

I would like to say I'm proud of you for taking this step on your journey towards healing ❤️

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emmi331

Keep going back! My counselor later told me he thought after my first session that maybe someone should accompany back to my car because my behavior/emotions were all over the map! Fortunately I eventually stabilized and he helped me a great deal. It might help at your next session to share with your counselor your insecurities during your first visit. It could open up a useful topic to discuss.

I’m sorry to hear that. Did you continue going despite the issue?

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Babe1213

If this was your first session it is perfectly natural for you feel 'ill at ease', your counsellor will have known that you need to build up trust in others. I think most of us will feel the same way even at our own G P, when we maybe speak about intimate parts of our body's. With a counsellor we are 'baring our souls.' Takes time, you may have to continue for a few more sessions then suddenly 'everything will click into place and you will feel more at ease. Be strong. xx

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Ticktick

Dear bookskeepmecompanyI can relate to your feelings

Just keep going

Been there done that

You will find serenity and peace one day

God bless you

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designguy

Like others have said, just keep going, I personally found it was just great to be able to confide in someone and at the time I had no idea how much I was in denial and unaware of my issues and emotions and how much therapy was going to ultimately help me, so glad I kept going. Think of it as a process of peeling away an onion and you are just starting to peel it.

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bethelbee

You shouldn't feel silly at all just because you feel you're anxiety and depression aren't 'bad enough'. Everyone has different degrees of it. Obviously you felt like you needed to go. I've been going to therapy for off and on for decades and there are many times I don't feel like I've gotten much out of a session until later, be it later that day or a couple days later, when I think of something that was discussed and what it actually meant. Give it more time and hopefully you will benefit from it.

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lovetodance2018

So glad you decided to go to counseling and planning to continue going to appointments. It is great to hear you received some good tips for balancing your life. We all need that. Any kind of depression or anxiety needs counseling. My prayers will be with you. Hugs and God Bless

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