domestic violence

[Mum2be11]

hey I'm fairly new to using this , I have recently left my ex partner who was abusive and I'm now living in a refuge whilst pregnant. so has left me thinking about relationships and is it actually worth it at all.

[Raggedy-Ann]

Hi Mum, I am happy you're safe. You were smart to leave. The best thing to try to do is focus on you and your baby. Sleep well.

[Agora1]

Mum2be11, I respect you for getting out of an abusive relationship.

No one should have to live with abuse. You did the right thing for you and

your baby. Stay Safe and take care of yourself. xx

[Mum2be11 in reply to Agora1]

thankyou ☺

[hypercat54]

Hi I agree with the others so well done for getting out of this abusive relationship. Please don't even consider going back even if he 'love bombs' you and promises to change etc. He won't and this is just a trick to get you to return.

Try not to worry about the future too much at the moment. You have enough going on in your life with your baby so try and live for today and let tomorrow take care of itself.

I note you are also in the UK and the benefit system will make it a lot easier for you than in some other countries. Take care.

[designguy]

Good for you for having the courage to take care of yourself and get out. Right now I would just focus on taking care of yourself and your pregnancy and forget about relationships for a while. You might try reflecting on why and how you wound up in an abusive relationship and see if there is anything you can learn so you don't repeat it in the future. I'm not implying that the abuse was your fault but sometimes we act unconsciously in ways that aren't healthy for us and even repeat patterns without recognizing them. Best to you and your child.

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

I’m actually proud of you. I know it wasn’t easy. You were probably scared. But you did the right thing. My grandma stayed with a man who physically abused her and the children. That man literally killed whatever souls her children had. They are all dysfunctional and none of them really have a good relationships of their own. My grandmother stayed with him for 18 years because she was afraid to leave him. He had convinced her that she could not live without him and she believed it fully.It was only by the grace that he left her. Because she would’ve never left him. Sadly the damage was already done. My grandma off and has regrets and wishes she would’ve made a different decision. She probably wishes she was as brave as you are. To flee the situation before it got any worse not only for yourself but also for your baby.

[AndrewT]

Dear Mum2be11,

A simple answer, for you..... I don't know your circumstances, and I don't need to either, just so long as YOU- and BABY- are NOW Safe. As a man I don't know 'much' about Refuges, Except That They Protect Women. I have to say that I can't understand, quite Why, a man would Abuse- in any way- his Pregnant Partner...... Surely he should PROTECT her, I KNOW that I would!

You must now Concern yourself, with having, a Beautiful Child and know that our

Very Best Wishes Are With You.

AndrewT