Idk how to tell dad i don't want to move out

[Against_the_current]

Traveling on sunday. He's gonna drive me to university city and wants to pack my stuff there and make me change my accomodation because of my roommate situation. But i don't want it. I'm agoraphobic and i can't move out. I'm burnt out And i can't think of all the process fo moving out. And i don't want him through my stuff. He's gonna judge. And see i have stuff and think i have too much money and give me less. And i don't want to leave this beautiful place because of my stupid roommates

[Starrlight]

If you don’t want to move out I’d just tell him straight forward.

[Blueruth]

Are saying you don't want to move from the place you are sharing with roommates? Well this is why it is important to learn how to communicate which you can agoraphobia or not. then you could stay there no matter how stupid your roommates are. Not living how you want is the consequence of not taking the advice to heart. Sorry to be so hard but if you want to be an adult then you have to face certain realities.

[SoporRose]

I agree that telling your father that you don't want to move is the smart way to go. Explain why it’s more important to stay, despite the roomate issues, than to move. Explain, too, that sometimes it helps to vent about your problems and blow off some of your tension that way and that you appreciate his listening to you and his concern.

You might ask him for advice on how to handle the roommates. He might have some useful suggestions and people usually like being asked for insights. That also will make him feel like he has an investment in your staying and that you value him and your relationship with him. But it will also mean being willing to listen to him, to consider his suggestions, and to give at least a few of them a try. If he is willing to help you think through ways to make your current situation work and you immediately tell him why all his ideas are wrong, that will make things worse. I do understand the feeling of having no good options, but this might just be a chance to find a starting place to build a bridge with your dad.

You have come so far and I think it’s appropriate for you to remind your dad, kindly, that you are better and stronger for living where you are. Thank him for his support and tell him you’re grateful for making it possible for you to continue to grow and heal. You could write down everything you have to say. That way you won't have to worry about forgetting points you want to make and it might just beca letter that will be meaningful for yourdad, one that he’ll treasure and keep.

Apologies for the long response, but I do think you have an opening here to start to mend things with your dad.

Let us know how things turn out. We're cheering you on.