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[Ella_122]

i dont feel like my self anymore.I moved to Germany one year ago im here with my family.There is this guy that worked with us until todoay,he is originally from the same place as we are so he was always around,It was obvious that he liked me and he told me that even couple of timesbut i Al ways denied relationship.He is a good guy and i liked his compay ,but for some reason i didn’t want a relationship.He would come to our apartment alot ,eat with us,drink ,everything.And now he is going back to Croatia ,and i feel really bad , I’m losing a friend.And I’m thinking did i make a mistake for Not wanting to be more.I think about it everyday and it’s messing with my head.Someone please give me some advice.

[catsrock]

I think you should listen to your intuition - you didn't want a relationship with him and that's ok. When it's someone you do want a relationship with, you'll know. I know it's hard, but try not to look back with regret. Everything is a lesson.

[Ella_122 in reply to catsrock]

Thank you for advice❤️, i am trying but my mind keeps thinking about that.it’s already been hard enough being in a new country trying to fit in,even tho my family is here it’s still hard.And when i found out he is leaving i wished he stayed a little longer.He said he planed staying for like a year and then go back home.I am wondering maybe i should have hanged out more with him or try to be more talkative(I’m anxious so sometimes it takes time for me to open up)but after some time we talked a lot and about everything.I’m like what if i messed up…

[catsrock in reply to Ella_122]

You didn't mess up. You tried your best at the time and that's all any of us can do. I hope you can let this go as time passes. Sorry it's so hard.

[Ella_122 in reply to catsrock]

Thank you for answering,ill try to get better somehow .

[Frederik96]

Hey a late welcome to Germany

It’s hard to say when you didn’t want a relationship in the first place it was ur decision. That he is leaving now is mixing up your feelings up. But I guess you see now friendship bonding as love. I mean you can just trust your heart in this time and situation.

Worst advise is the thing with the money.

Viele Grüße!