Break up !

[Sushi2345]

I’m having a horrible time here, just horrible . I was dating this girl from last year and we just recently broke up . I know for the past 9months the relationship was not healthy because we were off and on a lot , but I fell in love head over heels for this girl . I can’t stop obsessing about her. I constantly check WhatsApp to see if she blocked me and check her Facebook profile picture to see if she has a new boyfriend , drive around my city to find her car . I literally just can’t stop obsessing , it’s horrible . Any suggestions at all? Any help ?

Thanks

[101315]

a situation like that requires a distraction. It is an awful feeling in the pit of your stomach for sure. I can undrstnd the feelings of wanting to continue to keep tabs on someone you were so close with but at some point it became borderline criminal.

take this time to work on things about you that you feel need improvement. Learn how to play a musical instrument or explore your talents as a writer. Another solid choice is to get a pet that requires your attention. If you are taking care of something else you may not have time to obsess.

Ideally you want to avoid being a creepy stalker type because that behaviour will lead to many more problems. It sucks to feel alone and ignored but so many relationships end this way and the only advice is to move on. You will find that strength eventually and perhaps find love again in an unlikely place.

Discover yourself and you will gradually improve.

[Caseopia in reply to 101315]

i went through the hardest break up i ever had 8 months ago. I didn't think id survive because of the circumstances i ended up in and i was so in love. But unfortunately, time is the only thing helping me to heal. It still haunts me but like what has been mentioned,distractions are great. I try to hang out with other people, do hobbies I'm interested in like art or music and i try to get outdoors to ground myself. I hope things get easier for you. We are here to listen.

[Sushi2345 in reply to 101315]

Thank you !

[Tealribbon]

breaking up is sooooo hard. Try to take one minute at a time, distract yourself and stay out of your head. Sing out loud , count, do anything but stay out of your head. It does get better but the process is hard and I’m sorry.

[Sushi2345 in reply to Tealribbon]

Thank you !

[Diamond99]

break ups are hard and emotionally stressful but if you can focus on things that you like that make you happy things that you like to do or maybe reach out to a friend that you can talk to it will just take some time but if you focus on you and hobbies it will get better I am here for you

[Sushi2345 in reply to Diamond99]

Thank you !

[pamb67]

work on yourself and gain insight into yourself and try to stop from looking up this girl you will only torture yourself. Its not meant to be now its time to focus on you

[Sushi2345 in reply to pamb67]

So true , thank you !