Trouble connecting

[Weelon]

I have trouble connecting with people & I always seem to say the wrong thing. That may be their issues? Initially people are wary of me but when you get to know me I’m easy going, sometimes people take advantage of my good nature. However I’ve distanced myself & there’s no going back. Someone has said the older you get the less tolerant we are.

[AnxiousSilver]

Sometimes a simple "Hi" or small talk can lead to bigger things.

[Weelon in reply to AnxiousSilver]

I have done but I find some challenge me.

[Hidden]

I have trouble like that too. I worry that I’ve said the wrong thing or I’ve said too much. Just be yourself and don’t worry so much about what other people think of you. Some people are very critical and you’re not going to change them. I tend to seek out the other person in the room who is by themselves and is a loner like me. I don’t try to be popular and have tons of fake friends. I prefer quality over quantity!!!

[Weelon in reply to Hidden]

I don’t do fake friends either. I’m more of a listener than a talker. I’m capable of talking if given the chance. I’ve found people around me don’t really listen what you have to say only what they want to hear & judge you instantly. So I’m a loner too but it’s lonely.

[Hidden in reply to Weelon]

I’m sorry that’s been your experience. There are good people out there, you just need to find them. You are welcome to send me a personal message on here if you want to.

[101315]

I have often felt the same.

[Weelon]

Do you overthink?

[101315 in reply to Weelon]

i never seem to stop.

[Weelon in reply to 101315]

Wish I could stop. Been told I should have been a police investigator.

[designguy]

Sounds like you are suffering from low-self-esteem and low-self-worth which is common with people who have depression/anxiety issues. Our relationship with ourself is our most important relationship and directly impacts our ability to relate to others.

There is a lot of good info on youtube about this. I found the writings and the Break Free program by Dr. Bernadette Sewell to be very helpful.