grieving friendship

[Foreverbroken31]

I remember the time not long ago

When we laughed and shared it all.

We were the very best of friends,

Or at least that's what I thought.

I often wonder why friendships end.

You left without a goodbye.

You left me with a million questions wondering why.

I keep thinking it was my fault.

But deep down you gave up first.

You might think I was at fault and maybe I think you were at fault but we will never know.

I had to say the words for you.

Yes maybe I ended it all but it was what you had already done.

I don't regret giving up but i do regret having to end it all before you did.

I had the courage to say goodbye but you lacked the courage to say it back.

Now there's nothing to do.

A 9 year friendship was lost it is a very sad thing 😔

[Hidden]

It can't be retrieved at all?

As I've got older I have a lot less friends than I used to have, but maybe that's just how it goes. I don't dwell on it I just try to move on and get on with life.

I hope you will feel OK soon.

[Foreverbroken31 in reply to Hidden]

No she blocked me on everything she could and I guess my phone number too because she has replied to me in weeks

[Hidden in reply to Foreverbroken31]

Send a letter if you have her address?

Things like this are very hard to deal with and they take time.

Maybe you will have to draw a line under it at some stage and move on...

I hope things work out for you.

[compasnet]

I'm SO sorry 🙏. I feel your pain. 🫂(((Foreverbroken)))🫂

[Stippler]

I am sorry for your loss. Years ago, my very best friend of 10 years broke off contact with me. I still wonder what the heck I did. I know it hurts. Sending hugs.

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

Some people are just meant to be in your life for certain time.

My 7yr friendship ended over a guy. Not that I was dating or anything. in fact neither was she. She dated him for a little bit but he broke up with her. She ended her friendship with me cause I told her the truth that our mutual friends had most recently hung out with him. That hurt her because he didn't swing by to see her. But rather than be upset at him or our other friends which still wouldn't be right. She got mad at me and stopped speaking to me. I gave her her space. I muted myself on social media. Cause I know it can be difficult seeing someone who you believe hurt you and their happy photos. So I removed myself from the situation. I would reach out to see if was ok, no reply. I got word her brother has cancer offered my sympathies. No word. Messaged her again when I found out her other brother tried to commit suicide and hope he was okay. But nothing. It hurts. Basically she took away our friendship without discussing it with me. Would have been nice to be told why. Maybe it would help her see how ridiculous it is.

So I decided I did enough. I just unfollowed, unfriended and just removed her off my socials. No point in having her as a friend when she is clearly not. I don't wish her any ill will. I hope she finds her happiness and a great guy someday. I'm still in contact with friends that we share & ask how she's doing. Again, just wanted to make sure she's doing well.

However she's not at the forefront of my mind. I love helping my friends out and post there stickers of their band around town. Having fun playing with my photos on my photo editor. I still have my other friends who I've been friends with going over 18yrs. Made some new ones. Life is going good for me. Despite the anxiety. I'm working on that and I'm doing good. Really that's what matters.

[Foreverbroken31]

I hope I can get to this part of the grieving process. Because I knew this day was around the corner but I honestly kept giving all of myself to being her friend and everyone around me said to just let it go. But that's is my big problem. I give people so many opportunities and because I have been on the other side. Where people just decide I'm no longer good enough to fight for. But all this time I knew I was forcing it. I wanted it so bad to be like before but I had changed and she couldn't come to terms with it. And even though she told me I'm your sister ill be here always she walked out of the friendship even before I had the balls to end it

[Dolphin14]

I had the most wonderful friend for 10 years. We did everything together. We talked every day. She was my rock and I was hers. She stood beside me during one of the biggest traumas of my life. I couldn't have gotten through without her.

I was diagnosed with PTSD soon after the trauma. I know I wasn't " right" and I think my actions may have contributed to our ending. I wasn't the same person. But I only see that now, 25 years too late

There was never discussion she just faded out of my life. I was broken but had to accept.

Your words hit close to my heart

🐬

[Call_me_anything]

It's not your fault