Grieving Furbaby Momma

[Mama2Miley]

I am new to this group and honestly I was desperately searching for someone and anyone to just talk to. i am married and she is incredible...but she too is grieving. To be honest, I am a recovered addict and with the first loss I have had to endure sober approaches, I am afraid of myself and the thoughts that won't stop. I blame myself for everything I didn't do with my pup,I hate that I allowed so many wasted moments go that she could have been a apart of with us. As the time is nearing,I just need the support that will get me through. As of now, all I do is cry. I don't know how to survive this.This feels unbearable.

[EndUser13]

aww! What a cute pup... I'm sorry. Strangely (or maybe not) one of the 'people' I grieved hardest over, cried the hardest over was a cat. Animals demand to get in your face with all kinds of positivity and no judgment... it's so much harder to see them go because of that, because of what they can mean, how deeply they can seem to connect.

I'm truly sorry, I wish I had words that could be meaningful to you right now. I'm sorry you need to endure this pain.

[Mama2Miley in reply to EndUser13]

I just don't know how to keep moving. She has been emotional support, an incredible companion and company through some of my darkest times. Where do you go from here? I just don't know.

[EndUser13 in reply to Mama2Miley]

I recall that feeling, "how is the world still going on!?"- I'm afraid I've felt it a handful of times in my life. I guess you just put one foot in front of the other and do your best. I know that's trite but really, small steps will add up to an accomplishment.

I recommend you grieve, give yourself time to cry and feel lost but don't forget why, remember the best parts of your pup and what they gave to you. In time, you'll find a way to honor those who have gone before you and they will live on in your heart. It's not easy, but it is worthwhile.

...but for now, you just cry and try to remind yourself that self-destructive behavior won't serve you. With something like this, there are no easy answers, no matter how simple they may seem, I'm sorry

[101315]

I am not trying to be insensitive with this reply so if I come across that way, I apologize in advance.

My dog is getting older and while not sick or dying yet I am thinking ahead. I am a loner with no real companions other than my pup and I fully intend to replace him when the time comes. I love my dog more than I love any person I know but I also know their life span is significantly shorter than mine.

I do not feel as if it is a betrayal or a rebound. It is an avenue to share my love with something and be loved in return. It is normal to feel as if you did not do enough with your pet but they would never complain. I am quite sure your dog had unconditional love for you and would encourage you to show another dog the same compassion.

I am tearing up as I write this knowing full well that I will outlive my dog and it will break me. The next little guy will help me through it. I hope you can find solace eventually.

Your pupper is beautiful.

[Gillyflower18 in reply to 101315]

I agree 100%. I have grieved over every cat I’ve had and that is right but eventually I find another fur baby who needs a home. Sometimes I think the previous cat has helped me find them! No pet who has loved you would want you to be alone.

[melbrown]

🫂 I am very sorry for your lost... Beautiful, happy pup. I can imagine how you and your wife are feeling. I went through the same thing when we lost both of our cats and going through it now. Our pup was diagnosed with lung cancer early this year... it sucks... I keep thinking of things he'll never experience again... if he's in pain... guilt when not with him... Be there for each other... try not to let the guilt over whelm you, you did what you could & your pup was loved and happy. Let yourself (& wife) go through the process... eventually the healing will begin. Again I'm sorry for your lost.🕊

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

What a gorgeous dog. I'm sorry for your loss. It's hard to lose our animal companions. Sometimes they are really our only true friends for some of us.

I have had some of the best furbabies. Right now my old gal is 14 years old. I know she will leave me some day. I will be broken 💔 I will tell myself I won't do this again. Because I hate the pain and loss of losing them.

But just when I think Im getting along fine without. I'll find a sweet face in the street in need of a home or at Petco and I'll say alright I'll do it again 💙

You will get through this.

[Dolphin14]

What a beautiful picture of Miley. I'm so sorry, I understand this pain 100%

Guilt is one of the first phases in grieving a pet. But remember Miley only knew what you did to make her happy. She didn't know there was something else. I'm sure she was so happy with what you did do together.

It took me a very long time to get over my loss. I was diagnosed with complex grief because I just couldn't move on.

Something that was very helpful to me was the Rainbow Bridge support group. They have chat rooms and also forums to post on. You may find that helpful. Google it.

Thinking of you during this very difficult time.

🐬

[Louie35]

Godspeed to you

[designguy]

I'm so sorry for your loss, I know it hurts like hell. I've gone through losses of loved one's before but a few years ago my beloved fur-girl Jolie went over the rainbow bridge and I was absolutely gutted for days. I totally adored her and I knew she did me as well, there is nothing like experiencing unconditional love with a fur kid. My advice is to let yourself grieve and try to be kind and compassionate with your self just as your fur girl would have wanted you to do.