Grieving my child

[Help-Hope]

My first time posting. My daughter died in February 2022, and I’m struggling to cope. The current state finds me isolated from the friends and family who used to check in on me, who have stopped reaching out, and the sobering truth of my loss, unmitigated by shock. I am admitting to myself that though I appear functional - I work full time, I volunteer for bereavement groups, I look after my surviving family - I need help. I have gotten to a point where I am running on empty. Hoping others will understand.

[Beavis2022]

I'm so very sorry for your loss - I can't imagine how people can endure such a loss. I've known people who've lost a child, they say it takes a very long time to even believe that it happened. I know there are support groups, or maybe get an individual therapist for yourself. I don't know how you carry on, but you're doing it. Keep writing to websites like this for added support.

[Cb1963]

Perhaps I can give you some moral support, this grieving process is something that goes in phases, there's so many emotions you'll face ahead of you, and I had to reach out for counselling,and the support I had was immense, and people tend to " forget " how your life has been turned upside down, and unfortunately people tend to get on with their own lives, and I don't think it's intentional, people perhaps think everything is fine, but deep inside you feel like your dying, it's so difficult trying to explain unless they've been there, and I know that this is so traumatic.I struggle for words sometimes when trying to explain everything that happened,and my way of explaining anything comes out disjointed, because it's still a thought that has never left me, even friends and family won't understand you, yes at the beginning people would give you a shoulder to cry upon, but slowly they drift away and the jigsaw pieces are scattered around on the floor and you can't make any sense of what happened, it like doing a crossword without the clues,and people just expect you to get on with life, if only it was so simple, have I managed, yes,but even after 35 years I have a memory that hasn't let me forget, I can't give you all the answers to how things will work out , it's a journey nobody wants to face alone , and you have my deepest sympathy, I'm here anyway if I can help 💙 ❤️

[CrowBoy]

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. It’s unimaginable to me, that pain. You are a strong person to even withstand it. On top of all, you’re apparently alone with your burden. The bereavement groups you volunteer for, do you get to share your story or are you just helping others? I agree with Beavis 2022 that with a therapist you might be able to vent some of your feelings and find help and sympathy.

[Starrlight]

❤️💕💜💜💕❤️

[Rufus07]

I can’t even imagine losing a child.my thoughts, heart, and prayers go out to you during this difficult time.

[Casivalentina]

Gosh! I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand what you're saying about " functioning" , when you're actually running on empty. Have you taken time to process the loss of your daughter? It sounds like you've thrown yourself in to helping others who are grieving while continuing to work, care for your family and all, and maybe you haven't allowed yourself to fully grieve. I may be on the wrong track here. I just know it's hard to put on the face and keep up appearances. I'm not speaking as someone who has listened to a child, just someone who has struggled with profound depression and pushed myself to a point where I'm now trying to pick up the pieces after pretending to be okay for too long. My love and prayers go out to you. Be good to yourself. It's okay to not be okay.

[Mrspjsmom]

So sorry you have suffered an inamaginable loss. Highly functioning or not put yourself first. It matters. Hugs and healing thoughts.

[majones_0608]

Well I can not say I have been there but I in a way understand. Granted I only have lost my cat and an Uncle and my Grandparents on both sides, but I do very much fear death. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Feel free to message me if you want to talk. I hope and pray you will survive the holiday without your child. Merry Christmas.

[Vasiliki99]

bereavement group is a good idea and I am bereaved also it so sad that something that something that was here was gone - just like we ourself will be gone how ever much we run around we are tortured inside and we dont live in a loving happy place but in a difficult paradigm .........

[Wrytoast]

I'm so sorry for your terrible loss. I understand and feel the same way you do. I lost my only son, who was my best friend, to suicide, on January 2, 2023. I moved away to a mountain to be alone, and have isolated here since March of 2023. I suffer with severe PTSD after finding him, and my family has written me off as dead too. I am trying to heal with intensive therapy (via Zoom). You are not alone, there are others out there, like me, who definitely understand your terrible and lonely grief. ((hugs))

[WolfMuffin]

Very sorry for your loss. I prayed for you. I can only recommend Jesus. He is real and He can help. Just call out to Him.

[WastedDays]

So very sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to you.

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭34‬:‭18‬ ‭NIV‬‬

bible.com/bible/111/psa.34....

[SsgCulldelight]

Hi and positive words of affirmation, healing and love to you young Queen. I don't know where to start because I haven't experienced this, and do not want to, however you must know that we are Light Energy, and energy has no start or stop it is continuous, and Always Returns to its source, which is you, your baby lives in YOU, so you can't be sad, She is Always the in your smile, in your frown in your voice remember her blood STILL rings through Your veins that Z is True. I know her total physical body isn't but you still have her in your spirit and she's beautiful. Know this. negative thoughts and energy only depresses and reduces your light, Leo her light burning through your goodness and compassion, no one can affect that unless you let them. Love light and power friend. Cheers

[Vasiliki99 in reply to SsgCulldelight]

nice reply - light a candle or write or sleep with photos but nothing but tears helps me with bereavement ------goodness compassion sadness bad times imperfection r closer to us all than fb or tv lets on ----look at the faces n bodies in the street empty automatized sick like us all like me a raggy doll we r funny things not one of us forgives our experiences or birth its hell on earth really sadly - im sorry that someone close to you has passed - its game playing that blocks our feelings x

[CatsandCheese]

💔🫂🫶. Can't imagine.

[QuiltLady]

I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you need to take some time for YOU.

[froggymom88]

Hello Help-Hope. I lost my son to suicide in 2023. I understand that sorrow, that hole in the heart that is so devastating. I found that prayers are very helpful. I pray for my son each day and entrust him into the loving arms of God. The more it hurts, the more I pray. I will pray for you each day and your daughter. If you want to give me your daughters name, I will address God with her name. I will not forget.

[RS1974]

I'm so sorry for your loss sweetie ♥️This group can offer you support.

I'm getting if you want to talk sweetie 🥰