Seeking advice, please.

Living with my parents for over the summer and my dad is a Narcisst and I sometimes just feel scared living around him. Any suggestions on coping mechanisms or conversational techniques?

[EndUser13]

Having lived with an abusive, narcissist who never seemed to be forced to own up for their nonsense I just avoided them. You can't reason with the unreasonable and it doesn't help to be influenced by their negative manners.

I understand this isn't always possible though. When you do have to be around him, maybe just try to be diplomatic and vague. If they truly are a narcissist, don't take snide things they say personally.

When I meet a narcissist I just remind myself of the Dunning-Kruger effect and say to myself, "oh you're just overcompensating for feeling/being inadequate".

Sorry this is coming from a parent, my sympathies 😞

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Thank you for your input. Noted!

[Agamemnon2022]

There are a ton of Youtube videos on dealing with narcists by DoctorRamani. You can also find her on MedCircle, also on Youtube. Might give you some understanding or at least covers the basics.

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Will check it out, thank you.

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Ah-Cho199, oriental, right? The culture-you must honor father? Myself, I would ease into the home environment, like slipping into a warm bath. I would check the protocol, take note, the atmosphere the same. Little things, notice, with little thought. Then I would slowly acclimate myself into it. By this time the summer should be over. Hey Ah-Cho, love your whole family, the good & the not so good. You can always leave. Be Happy

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Thank you!

[FantasyLife]

U know whenever my dad or mom starts talking or scolding I am singing in my head or making a to do list or thinking about a movie ....

Like why did writer had to break them up if they were together it could have been the best touching scene ha! 😞 Then what if ....

It's not the best solution but helps u mute them off

And sometimes It does affect me but I just say to myself u r dng good in your own pace don't let them mess up for u...

Well ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 it heals me faster..

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Thank you for your genuine message.

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To clarify are you referring to love heals faster in your last comment?

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Something I don't have because I'm like scared and against it and makes me a toxic person cause I don't accept love into my life. It really sucks.

[FantasyLife in reply to Hidden]

For Me I love the feeling of love

But I am scared to let it come to my life... Just the thought of it scares the shit out of me

[Hidden in reply to FantasyLife]

Feel that. I end up treating others unfairly when I'm not loving but I appreciate your advice below in saying that I'm doing well and getting to my goal of being loving step by step. Thank you.

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While being self aware.

[FantasyLife in reply to Hidden]

anytime for ubut u know we really are missing out on many things. if we are going deep into our burrows filled with insecurities and fear, slowly or just Lil more slowly we have to take a step forward towards the ground full of possibilities and yet more surprising situations that welcome us to our life to make it far more interesting for us and to help us grow by making us strong....

I hope we both will try to get past our anxieties and fear to see what is really standing in front of us.

[Hidden in reply to FantasyLife]

Thank you for sharing truth, I will sit with this today is all I can so right now. Hopefully soon action will follow. You have a sweet soul, follow that step by step. We got this!

[FantasyLife in reply to Hidden]

thank u for the compliment,coz my brother always says that i am cold and selfish.....and i also think that is true sometimes.

hope we both find our way through Action.

have a happy day

[Hidden in reply to FantasyLife]

We will figure it out!!! Your brother is just doing what he knows most likely suffering Give yourself the space to heal without having to be mean but compassionate or just meditative/quiet time. You can do it your words of wisdom are so appreciate. Thank you, thank you!

[Hidden in reply to FantasyLife]

What does step by step mean to you? Or I'd it necessary? Just curious your take on it.. for me it's maybe living a health lifestyle but I seek certainty with it and at some point I think diving into fear or taking a "leap of faith" maybe be necessary but that scares me

[FantasyLife in reply to Hidden]

yes start with small steps and let it grow gradually and be consistent and be the most kind and forgiving person for urself and be as your own well-wisher let the voice of fear tune out gradually out of ur sight..and knowing the real reason and real source of fear is really important and the solution is also there in the past i think (this is like taking weeds out by roots) and as you said leap of faith is also necessary too like just cut those weeds off or burn them at once and after that slowly take out the roots too...

a/c to situation i think

[Hidden in reply to FantasyLife]

Soooooo true dear. Been happier today just by thinking about things. Feel like I'm better at thinking when I'm happier. Still difficult as a perfectionist but happiness is probably better than perfection. I don't know though just mumbling.

[FantasyLife in reply to Hidden]

Definitely trueHappiness is the best 😊

[FantasyLife in reply to Hidden]

Nope I was saying it heals your heart faster when u say to yourself that you are doing well and you are worthy of being happy so be strong....It kind of acts like a sudden but fast and light relief to your inner self