Seeking Advice: To keep the job or not to keep?

[Jvane18]

Hello everyone. Thought maybe you have some advice for me

Would you quite a toxic job you hate in a city that holds bad memories and move abroad living off your savings until your next commitment or stick it out to save some extra money because the toxic job pays very well?

Long:

I am currently working in a company where all the employees I liked either got fired or quit (I know not a good sign 😅) now I am forced to work closely with a nee boss that bullies me and I realized the reason I’m currently not doing work lto my standard speed is because the tasks are really underwhelming because they seem to believe I am dumb (as they mansplain me every chance they get 😂) although external clients only praised my work and also the fact that I am interacting with a boss who looks down on me and uses any chance to be rude or mean.

The only thing keeping me there is a really high pay. I am setting up to go into mental rehabilitation for 8 weeks in like may or so, but I am really not liking the city I live in currently if you read my last post not so nice stuff happened and I am fighting the idea of quitting my job and move abroad like I always wanted until rehab starts and live of my savings until then.

Terrible idea? Should I keep my job and stick it out to make some extra money before they fire me when I go to rehab around may?

Maybe also worth mentioning my lease ends in January and I have to move back home into a toxic environment, but I also haven’t signed a new lease because I have this strong urge to leave. But from February on I could live with my friend so if I am not quitting I have that going for me.

I hope this was not too confusing hahaha thanks in advance 😊

[Blueruth]

Oh Lordy…go! That is a totally wrong thing for me to say. You have to actually go with your gut. It is absolutely a risk. If you are without ties and responsibility there should be nothing holding you back. It is more likely the reward will out weigh the risk. Life is too short to stay at a job like that. Fab pay or not. It is so amazing to me these companies aren’t getting it.

[Jvane18 in reply to Blueruth]

Uff that is very nicely worded thank you for that and I totally agree! I think pulling the plug is actually the only hard part that’s holding me back if I’m being honest with myself 😄

And yea I honestly don’t understand how they are still not getting it if people quit or get fired because they just do the bare minimum because they don’t like how they are treated 🙈 I suppose unfortunately companies like this will always exist and with the high pay a lot of us keep up with it and they know it. But it definitely gave me a life lesson of happiness doesn’t equal the amount of money you make.

[Blueruth in reply to Jvane18]

In the service and Amazon the only way it will change in a significant way is if they organize AND prices go up. Unfortunately only a few groups have formed. Companies are bullies when they try. Also unfortunate is the big chains can weather it and keep the prices relatively low. The small businesses can’t compete. One small restaurant clearly addressed the wage and price raise on their tables. I’m tipping more but eating out less. These workers are not working. Perhaps we don’t need that many restaurants. I work at a small place that pays a ton less than Amazon who keeps contacting me. I even briefly thought about sucking it up for two years and banking the excess. No way. I read the too big to fail banks offered bonuses that exceed most people’s yearly pay and associates still quit. Living at work on coffee and takeout or vending machine food and taking abuse?…pfffft. No way.

I did a month in Mexico in September. I learned I need mountains. It was a great experience. I was able to work remote but my long term plan is to either relocate or slow travel. Right now I’m periodically checking out places and being a nomad.

[Jvane18]

Thanks cece that is very good advice! I actually saw the wording mistake in my post instead of “they think I’m done in my job” I meant “DUMB” instead of done hahah they are not thinking of firing me as far as I know 😄

But yes that’s the thing I am very very grateful I got a iob throughout this whole pandemic! Luckily my company wasn’t affected by it due to the field. I did think of quitting twice before 😂 and got 2 great job offers that I ended up turning down and stayed after I voiced what I didn’t like and they told me things would change, spoiler nothing changed, things got worse! 😅 so I don’t think after my rehab I would struggle to find a job also I’m eligible for 6 month high unemployment because I worked in the job for long.

I actually work in tech from home but they call me whenever they want on my private phone also at night it’s like terror 24/7 and they don’t see how it’s inappropriate. So honestly the whole working from home can really lead to abuse of power I am actually very conflicted about it. I think I would rather go to an office do my hours and have them let me be. 😄

I think now that I am writing this I already see what I wanna do hahahah thank you for that! 😄 your words really helped

[Jvane18]

Hahah oh no my techy showing through already? 😂 I am not sure if I can teach you anything as you just helped me but if you ever have a question on tech jobs or how to get your foot in the door feel free to pm me any time

[Midori]

I don't think going abroad would be a good thing. Being in a country where you don't know anyone, and you are unfamiliar with the customs and culture, you could end up worse off than you are.

Many countries can be strict about who they let in to work as well. You need a LOT of money if you are unfamiliar with the culture and Language.

Medical systems are different too, and if you needed medication, it might be unavailable where you go.

Also your qualifications probably would not be recognised. I'm not sure of your age, but if you are young you could be a target for sex pests as well.

Think carefully.

Cheers.Midori