All trauma is valid and non-comparable 💜

[Against_the_current]

Like someone drowning under 3 feet of water is like the one drowning under 13 feet. And with trauma it can't be measured. Sometimes there are small things that undermine us. I don't like it when ppl invalidate others cause "it could be worse". Like me and my other roommate were talking about our dads leaving and the other roommate said "don't get me started on trauma" meaning "what are you complaining from, they're alive, my mom's not, and you complain". And i feel sorry for her and think she's brave and valid but i, i'm a mentally sick person, a lot of countinios damage was done to me, my thinking is different. Ppl say "but you're a psych student, you should be okay", no, by being a psychology student i understand how much small things can break us. There are people crying over a broken nail and they're valid. There's no need to survive a volcano to have ptsd (but it's still valid but doesn't give you right to invalidate others). Like trauma is not a competition. And ppl are different. Maybe i'm just weak, or sick, but anyway i'm suffering, and i'm fighting, and these two don't invalidate each other. 💜

[Hidden]

i think we shoud do what we can to support each other...listeing and hearing

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

agree with u - we need to listn and respect eachothrs losses...not oth4wise..ur right....u have hae major major losses and all social and famil ontats and sencde of connecdtion...that is super super aloneness loss and isolathoand scary scary...im alone withouparents....truel sorry from everyonehere...truly truly ...devistarin g losses ...

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

Yeah

[Hidden]

i think ur like miltary guys who lose so many buddies and family...just devistaitntg and all alone and all aloen and no resourdes no family no conncions...super hard parnter

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

It is hard and i admit it. I just think that hearing how someone is hurting won't make anyone feel better. And comparison build guilt that is a brands new invisible trauma itself

[bethelbee]

You are so right that trauma can't be measured! I like your analogy of drowning in 3 vs 13 feet of water. And I hate when someone says 'it could be worse', not validating our feelings. Of course we know it could be worse! We all know that but what we are going through, whatever it is, it doesn't make it any easier.

[Against_the_current in reply to bethelbee]

Exactly 💯

[Hidden]

Point is things that are stupid to one person aren't to another!

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

Absolutely

[puppyplaytime]

"trauma is not a competition."

Exactly.

[Against_the_current in reply to puppyplaytime]

Yep, thanks for recognition 🙌