Feeling lost/loosing sight of reality

[thinkingplenty]

I am feeling really lost and confused right now. Nothing feels real and I feel as if my life has no meaning. I have some great things coming up in a couple of months but I cannot seem to get excited about them because I feel so low right now. Two years ago is the last time I remember feeling alive. How do I return to feeling happy about life and not wanting to give up?

[AnxiousSilver]

Sounds like you have a little bit of depression going on. If you makes you feel any better, I deal with a lot of depression on and off, but Anxiety will anyways be my #1 problem.

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Have you ever talked to a doctor about what is going on?

If so, are you on any meds?

[Queeniegirl27]

Sorry to hear that you have been feeling this way. Do you know when you started to feel this way and what could have triggered it? I started to feel a lot like this during the lockdown, especially as I had the flu (or maybe it was even Covid I have no idea) by the time I recovered I noticed that I felt so shaky and panicky in the car. I did have anxiety before then but I felt it 20 times more. Some things that helped me were taking Floridax daily (it’s blend of vitamins/food supplement) it made 50% of the derealisation feelings disappear. I also started to exercise a few times a week on purpose whether I felt like doing it or not as I wanted to feel more alive and feel better in the long run. I also believe that I was spending too much time on social media so I began cutting down as it can affect our eyes and our mental health. I think to truly feel alive it’s about doing things that you truly enjoy. Is there anything that you know you enjoy so much that makes you feel good? like i.e. baking, dancing, singing, exercise, playing an instrument? Even if you can only do it in your bedroom or in your garden it can be a fun, uplifting and sometimes even life changing.

[thinkingplenty in reply to Queeniegirl27]

I got out of a very short relationship that went horribly in early February. The person I was with had an attempt and bragged about their harm to me. I took it really hard and obsessed about it even when we were not together. That was a really bad time and I felt myself spiral. This happened just as I pulled myself out of another spiral that I can’t seem to remember the cause of. I have a lot of hobbies but I never really fully enjoy them and none of them make me feel alive. I also have tried going out with friends a lot recently but I get so anxious that I feel sick and cannot eat.

[lovetodance2018]

Thank you for sharing. I am sorry you are feeling so low. Have you seen a doctor? It is possible you are struggling with depression. Have you ever been diagnosed with that? Depression is both a chemical imbalance and also the way we cope and think. First the chemicals need to in balance which usually takes some type of antidepressant, then seeing a counselor to work through how you are thinking and processing things makes the difference. You will feel better with the right help. I struggled and still do at times with depression. What I learned is I have too high expectations for myself, I don't give myself enough breaks or downtime in the day, and I have to stay on top of my thoughts so they are encouraging and not discouraging. One tool I use that really helps me is the celebration journal where I can only list positive things in the journal such as what went well for the day. That me just waking up and getting my teeth brushed could be all I put in my journal but it is something that went well. The more we celebrate small things about ourselves the better we feel. I also recommend this tool; the 557 breathing technique is take 5 deep breaths in while thinking good thoughts about yourself like I matter, I am special, I am strong and then hold the breaths for the count of 7 focusing on those words about yourself, then let out the breath slowly for 5 seconds letting go of any anxious, self-defeating, unhealthy thoughts. I do this one to three times a sitting. I will be praying for you. Feel free to pm me if you'd like to chat. Hugs and God Bless

[sns99]

I can relate with the way you are feeling. I have experienced similar experiences throughout my life, mostly due to traumatic situations. Thinking back, most of the feelings you are describing happened to me long after bad situations occurred , because sometimes it does not feel real. The word "unbelievable" comes to mind because I can not fathom that it actually happened. I believe it is a good thing that you are recognizing the way you feel and that you can describe it. To me that is the first reason for you to keep going: you know you can make it through, and you are reaching out for support. In terms of regaining your own happiness. maybe try doing things that once brought you joy, try a new activity, anything that is going to keep your mind distracted and bring you a little bit of peace throughout the day. This can be as simple as showering, walking, or even sitting outside for a little while. Remember to be easy with your self and take it one day at a time. Lastly, if you continue feeling this way or ever feel like you want to give up consider talking to a doctor or therapist for guidance. For me, my life changed through therapy. If you ever need someone to talk to you, you can always reach out in chat !

[Orneb]

If you’d like, you can tell us about what was different two years ago.