I live for others and not for myself

[Shanm2]

I live for other people, and not for myself, that much has become clear lately (not that it was unknown)

I'm faced with what i see and hear, recently i was confronted with a situation that i needed to get out of and so i removed myself away from it. But yet my mind lingers back

I need to change for myself to change my life that much i know.

[Hidden]

Shanm2

I let others effect my life too. I recently up and moved to another state because I was running from a bad situation. I found that where I moved was not for me and now I am back in my home state but not in that same old situation but my mind lingers back too. I let the past cause me depression and hold me down. I need to change my life too and FORGET the past. I am glad you posted because I can totally relate and it inspired me to move forward.

[Shanm2 in reply to Hidden]

Ah i'm sorry it hasnt been an easy time.

Maybe having had made that move was essential for you to realise that it wasn't good for you, but its good you recognize that and made the decision that was better for you at that time.

When you said the past causes the depression and holds you down, i relate to that so much.

The mind can be such a pain as much as it can be beautiful too.

I believe that although we can't quite forget the past (it would be soo much easier to forget the situations and people from it) we can definitely learn from it, like to change our lives would have to come from knowing where the past and places, people can lead too or what they do to you. And then comes the healing and thats when change can happen

Sometimes i remind myself that i wouldn't be who i am if things hadn't happened - good or bad- Something beautiful can come out of something painful.

I wish you soo much happiness and brightness and light for the future. Stay strong, you've got this ❤

[Roxylox in reply to Shanm2]

Much of my past has become a painful place to visit. I do n't know if good can come of it.I thought l was a caring person , and I think l have been for the past 30 + years. Until l was 19 or 20 though there were times when l didn't treat people right.

I didn't live for others then.

You may be right to remove yourself from that situation if it is for your own good.

Make yourself priority.

[SarahNikki]

I am only alive for my mother, i tell you living for others is a life of F. Some days I get really close to committing suicide especially when I'm angry at my mom because it shows me that the only one i care for is usually the one causing me pain. Others are not worth it, but you are so please just hang in there because that is exactly what i do every day

[Shanm2 in reply to SarahNikki]

I'm so sorry you go through this, and feel at times that not being here comes to mind, I'm glad you are here and on this earth!

I have a very complicated relationship with my mother and it hit me so hard with "the only one i care for is the one causing me pain" - Wish i had something helpful to say about this, but sadly i don't as i struggle with this too. Only that your not alone in feeling this.

Although "living life for others is a life of F" for some reason made me laugh for the way you put it 😀

Do you have any interests that you like to do? Do you have time to do things for YOU each day?

I know its not always easy, Stay strong