Trying to move on dealing with past trauma

[Crizzcross]

Hello. I am trying to cope with trauma from my divorce. Although it’s been close to 4yrs. That feeling of loss still lingers. I keep holding on to what was. I miss that family dynamic. And my daughters are getting older and becoming more independent. With everything that’s been going on with the pandemic and isolation. I know things are opening up now. I feel paralyzed to move on. I live independently which is also a challenge. Please keep me in prayer.

[Against_the_current]

You sound so much like my mother. 4 years. 2 growing up daughters. Please tell me you're not my mom because i'm paranoid. My name starts with N, my mom's name starts with K.Sending love to you. You sound like an amazing person 😭❤️

[Crizzcross in reply to Against_the_current]

I’m a Dad. I’m not your Mom. I hope she’s doing well. And thank you for the compliment

[Against_the_current in reply to Crizzcross]

Thanks and sorry i'm a bit paranoid 😅. Hope it gets better

[TailWags]

Hi. I have never been married so I cant really say much. But I did want to remind you that there are always people here who can listen. I expect you spent many years living as a family unit. Not only are you dealing with that loss, but just the newness of the situation as things change is there too. I find mindfulness training helps me. I dont know if you tried that. I took an 8 week class that met once week. I wish you the best and will remember you in my prayers (which is a whole different story with me). Be gentle with yourself.

[Agamemnon2022]

It's critical to develop activities and hobbies outside of the house. You can usually find a list of places to volunteer at your local Chamber of Commerce. Church is good, if you're religious. Hobby stores usually have a couple of sign up sheets. Start working out. Get your masters in clinical and mental health. Find something new and fun you like to do. Couple of my friends joined bicycling clubs and go on long rides on the weekends and take special trips. I've tried all these things except the bike riding, yuck, with pretty good success.

When they asked Hugh Hefner one of his strengths, he said it was the ability to reinvent himself. Sounds like the ideal time for you to find a new and improved version of yourself and become that person. I'm thinking less Gatsby here and more 80 years old and living with three hot blondes but you might want to set your goals a little lower than Hugh's.