I don't know what's going on.

[DemureRose]

One of my friends is being really weird and I have no idea why.

We've talked a little over spring break and while he was a bit bland compared to usual, it was still fine.

But the past few days he has had zero contact. I left it alone for a day or so, figured he was busy. Then I saw a post on instagram I thought was funny, so I sent it to him.

But after 5 hours of no response, I deleted it. It's just my self-preservation policy to delete something I send to someone if it's been longer than 2 hours of no response. Since you're alerted when something is deleted on instagram, he saw it and messaged me about it. No response.

So I got a little stalkerish (I know I know blame the anxiety). I checked on snapchat and saw his snap score was rising. So I snapped him. It's been 2 hours and he hasn't opened it...but his snap score has still risen.

Now he's not only not even opened my snap but he has seen my dm and not responded.

It's clear he's ignoring me, I just have no idea why. And since he won't talk to me I can't even ask why.

We've been friends for over a year and he has never done this. I'm just super confused and honestly feeling like shit because this guy is one of my closest friends.

Any ideas?

[Rick1on1]

Is this the same friend you mention in other posts?

What age group are you in?

Do you have feelings for this guy?

What you are experiencing is quite normal... - the angst of not knowing - your mind making up possible reasons for his silence - throw in some chemistry and you have a sure-fire explosion of "what ifs".

Be his friend and let him know you are there for him and leave him be. He will come around and let you in on what's happening.

[DemureRose in reply to Rick1on1]

Yes same friend as in other posts.

We're both 20 and in college.

Yes I have feelings for him.

[Rick1on1 in reply to DemureRose]

Does he know you have feelings for him?

[DemureRose in reply to Rick1on1]

No he does not. I mean I thought I had made it clear but he would have directly told me he wasn't interested if he knew I liked him.

[Rick1on1 in reply to DemureRose]

Time to tell him then

[DemureRose in reply to Rick1on1]

Is that a good idea tho? He obviously does not like me and I feel like I'll ruin our friendship by speaking up.

[Rick1on1 in reply to DemureRose]

Yep - both of you will know exactly where you stand - no assumptions! Remember, you are not giving an ultimatum - just stating a fact.

[DemureRose in reply to Rick1on1]

That's terrifying. I don't want to ruin things or make things awkward between us.

[Rick1on1 in reply to DemureRose]

as i understand it - you created this post cause it was already awkward?

[DemureRose in reply to Rick1on1]

Less awkward, more so just out of what's been ordinary.

[Rick1on1 in reply to DemureRose]

I still think you need to drive what happens next - "lay your cards on the table" and see what happens.

Good luck!

[JadedLife82]

He may be starting a new relationship with someone romantically and so that could be it. Also, guys are not as into interacting with people near as much as women. They are more aloof when it comes to the little things that a person who likes them does to make them happy and loved. I don’t know if you are still young, like maybe high school age, but honestly if you are then Rick1on1 is right saying that it’s perfectly normal. Don’t make mountains out of mole hills and try to find way too use your time to distract you from being obsessive about them communicating with you. No one is going to be leaving a good friend for no reason, and if you are as close as I believe you to be I think that he would let you know. Get yourself to focus on something else that you can do that would be fun, such as a new hobby or something. Take care of yourself.

[Agamemnon2022 in reply to JadedLife82]

I don't know if we [men] are aloof or clueless. Men don't usually get subtle signals in my experience but maybe it's just me. At age 20, well frankly, men don't use our brains much for relationships at that age. There's so many things it could be, it's pointless to speculate really. Give him some space. Odds are his lack of a response has nothing to do with you.