Work Advice

[Bookishbunny]

I have been at my current job for a week. The pay is crap, I’m on my feet all shift and they schedule me where in my state I am not entitled to breaks, and I am for the vast majority training myself. Despite this, I have been less than happy, but still content. Until two days ago…

This was the first time I worked with my boss’s boss. She is terrible. She is controlling and micromanages everything I do. Before I have a chance to fix an issue she is right there with her contradicting tone and passive-aggressive instructions. Well yesterday I left work crying. I was early to my shift and this person told me not to clock in. I was annoyed because this hasn’t been an issue and I was needed and there was no other host present. A couple walked in and asked if they could seat themselves I said I didn’t know because I was off the clock and didn’t know what to do. I was scolded by a co-worker for this. I tried to explain but they just walked away. Just after it was TWO MINUTES until my shift and I went to clock in, as I was doing this my boss whispers under her breath “I told her not to clock in until 8” it was loud enough that the person beside me spoke up, and said it’s literally only sixty seconds early. This started the day off roughly to say the least. The day proceeded in a mess we were slammed with angry customers and I had no help. I would also like to mention that that morning I heard people talking about my partner for the day. They said he was a creep in less than kind words. I had never met him at this point so I thought I'd meet him and judge for myself. Well, no surprise he was an old creepo. He flirts with all the servers and overall puts off a scary vibe. I know to trust my instincts on these things but now I'm scared to work directly with him again. Due to the situation with the customers, my creepy co-worker, and my boss I was ready to get the hell out of Dodge. I told him I was clocking out and called a different manger to let them know I was leaving. That's when my boss stops me and says “I’ll be all alone and you haven’t done everything!” She was referring to sweeping and cleaning chairs, this is the job for the night host. Not the morning host. I replied that I couldn't help (wouldn’t stay late AGAIN) because I’d already clocked out. She then looks at me and says, “Don’t ever leave me like this again.”

Guys and Gals I need advice I have other job opportunities, and it's no secret that I haven't been in a good place mentally in months so the last thing I need is a job that makes it all worse. I'm embarrassed that after only a week I am thinking of quitting, but I'm honestly afraid to go back there. Should I look into other avenues? I already had an interview and have another today. My family agrees that i should leave, but wants me to stay longer, but I don't know if I can. What should I do? Any advice is appropriated.

[tofler]

Hi, that sounds like a really difficult working environment (to put it politely!). If you can get a job somewhere else I'd leave this place as soon as you possibly can. I don't see how anything is going to improve by you sticking it out for longer, there's nothing to be gained, just more stress.

[Bookishbunny in reply to tofler]

I agree. I'm just afraid about not getting another job. I still don't know what to do. 😩

[tofler in reply to Bookishbunny]

Keep applying for jobs and going for interviews. The more interviews you have, the better you'll get at them and answering all those questions and it'll just be a matter of time until you're offered another job. What sort of work are you looking for?

[ashdlawson23]

hi,what you're going through sounds terrible and nobody deserves to be in such a hostile work environment. I understand how worried you must be so let me give you a little backstory and perhaps that can help you make a decision?

So I was in a similar situation and to make matters worse, my "boss" was one of my relatives so she thought it was perfectly alright to overwork me, trouble me and even passive-aggressively keep pushing me to a limit every single day. After a point, going to work had become something I was afraid of. That's when my friend stepped in and helped me stop. I quite, signed up for sessions that had hypnotherapy for anxiety with Hollybush and with the job, I kept applying and interviewing everywhere till I finally found the perfect place to be at.

The more I interviewed, the more I understood what companies were looking for an upgraded my skills accordingly; tbh it's very effective!

I also think your state of mind is important as it can affect your interviews. I recently read an interesting post about this ( cityhypno.co.uk/mind-body-c... ) and it had really got me thinking.

It did take me some time to face my relative again at family gatherings and other occasions but the hypnotherapy sessions helped a lot in dealing with my anxiety. I really hope you find what you're looking for! and don't stress about the job too much, keep applying everywhere you'll find the right place for sure. Good luck!

[Blueruth in reply to ashdlawson23]

"The more I interviewed, the more I understood what companies were looking for an upgraded my skills accordingly; tbh it's very effective!"

This^^ It also gives you practice. If I don't get the job it is because I am under qualified or over qualified but not because of my interview skills. I also learned how to write emails that got the recruiter's attention. A lot of it is trial and error. The generic advice they give you is not always the best advice for the industry you are seeking work in.

[Blueruth]

Geez and they wonder why it is so hard to find employees. 🙄 If you can't survive for a few weeks I would get anything... walmart... whatever. That wouldn't affect your resume. That is just toxic for the most confident person who wouldn't stay either. I'd also write up a review on Glassdoor anonymously. She needs a major come to Jesus.

[Bookishbunny in reply to Blueruth]

That's really good advice thank you

[Blueruth in reply to Bookishbunny]

BTW... i quit a job after two weeks. It was a call center job that involved convincing customers to not cancel after they were charged not quite illegally but definitely offensively. As part time night shift I sat at full timers desks. They all have photos of "things" like cars and houses they want to buy. It was like they needed external motivation to stick around. It was really depressing. Well, a few months later the company attracted the feds plus lawsuits for those charges. They ended up bankrupt. 👏👏👏

[Coop20]

Oh 100% I’d be out of there as soon as there was another job available heck probably if i didn’t have another job! They sound like terrible managers (if you can really call them that!) their behaviour is disgusting! If you do leave, i would definitely tell them your feedback if you feel comfortable, it will hopefully help them learn in the long run. Or maybe ask the companies main management team, anyone above those managers? Even leaving a review online for them might be an idea, be honest you did everything right by the sounds of it just very poor leaders!

Something much better will be around the corner 😊 good luck.

[AuntBee]

Dont be embarrassed that you want to quit after only one week. It says more about them than you. It can be so hard to gauge the bad places to work when interviewing. At the interview, they are always on their best behavior. Cut your losses now and put your energy into finding something better. There is no need to stay longer. You sound like a great employee.