Is this normal ?

[Darklight_465]

I feel very unmotivated and as soon as I start something I get distracted everything distract me the smallest things. Or I just zone out and disconnect myself from reality. I wanna be productive but I just don't know how to. Please any ideas ?? and does this happen to anyone else??

[Hidden]

I would make goals that you want to achieve and then break them down to smaller bitesize goals. Mediation has helped me concentrate.

[Darklight_465 in reply to Hidden]

I think I need to get into the habit of meditating again. Ughh I just been so stress and Barely have any time ): but thank you I will try to start meditating and making small goals

[Hidden in reply to Darklight_465]

I know the feeling, I keep forgetting to meditate and not making the time. Your welcome, all the best.

[misslillie]

Happens to lots of people. Check out meds and coping strategies for ADHD. If you don't want the meds the strategies for living with distractibility will help. Lots of manuals out there. Google or search the web. You won't regret it.

[Darklight_465 in reply to misslillie]

But I don't Have ADHD or I haven't been diagnosed do you think Maybe I have it???

[misslillie in reply to Darklight_465]

Hard to diagnose ADHD. I am suggesting you use the resources developed for extreme fistrac

[misslillie in reply to misslillie]

Sorry made technical error. Lots of info on managing distractibility on the web. Look for books and manuals. I found them helpful. Not a complete cure. But very helpful. Let me know if you do find any and I will help your search.

[Darklight_465 in reply to misslillie]

I will Thank you

[Petrina_gmfc]

Sorry I don't

[Darklight_465 in reply to Petrina_gmfc]

Thats ok how are you ?

[Petrina_gmfc in reply to Darklight_465]

Hi I am not very good I have a lots of stuff going on. How are you feeling

[Darklight_465 in reply to Petrina_gmfc]

why ?? im sorry Im here for you !

[Petrina_gmfc in reply to Petrina_gmfc]

It is my health problems

[Darklight_465 in reply to Petrina_gmfc]

oh im sorry ):

[Petrina_gmfc in reply to Darklight_465]

Why are you sorry for

[Darklight_465 in reply to Petrina_gmfc]

cuz I cant help

[Petrina_gmfc in reply to Darklight_465]

Don't worry about it I am here if you need to talk

[STEM_Dad]

Darklight_465 your original post could indicate a number of things, really. Maybe ADHD, if this distractibility is something that you regularly deal with.

However, of this only recently became a problem for you, then it might have a different cause. Stress, lack of sleep, dehydration, nutritional deficiency, body changes, relationship changes (family, friends, or romantic... whether good, bad or neutral, any significant change can affect you). I know from personal experience that anxiety, depression, or grieving can make me much more distractible, but I know that people without ADHD can seem like they do when they are affected by a mood issue (whether to the level of a disorder, or not).

I also know that distractibility can come from positive moods, too, like being excited about something that's happened, happening, or going to happen...or from being in love.

You mentioned meditation, and that can certainly help, regardless of what is causing you to experience this. You ought to be able to recognize if this is something that started recently, or if you have had distractibility for years.

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In my case, even though I didn't get diagnosed until I was 45, I can recall having problems with distractibility all the way back to First Grade. My ADHD diagnosis was long overdue, and I've been helped by medication, meditation and stress management, counseling, cognitive behavioral therapy techniques, friends and family support, and self care - getting adequate sleep, staying hydrated, taking supplements to deal with nutritional inadequacies (like vitamin D and Omega-3), and healthy exercise. It's a lot, and it's hard to do it all. What I mean is that there are a lot of things that can help.

Write things down.

Break big things down into smaller, more manageable things.

Checking things off your To-Do list can actually help you feel more motivated. There's lots of tips and advice that you can find like that.

There are many ways to manage your time, find something that works for you, and adapt it to meet your needs.

Make sure that you are taking good care of yourself. And when in doubt, see your doctor.

[Darklight_465 in reply to STEM_Dad]

Thank you STEM_Dad I been dealing with it for years now but its become more severe this past year. But I Think it might be from stress there has just been a lot going on. Specially since just being diagnosed with psychosis. I'm just confused with my emotions lately but I will talk to my doctor to see if this is normal. Thank you for your response <3

[STEM_Dad in reply to Darklight_465]

Your mention of being diagnosed with psychosis got me thinking. As far as I know, psychosis isn't correlated with ADHD, but around 70% of people with ADHD have one or more comorbidities. I've had struggles with anxiety (diagnosed) and depression (self-recognized).

According to WebMD.com: "Psychosis is a symptom, not an illness. It can be triggered by a mental illness, a physical injury or illness, substance abuse, or extreme stress or trauma." If there's an obvious cause (illness, injury, substance abuse), I'm sure you know what it is. If not, then it may be an "extreme stress or trauma" cause. Trauma or extreme stress, even from a long time ago, can cause PTSD, Complex PTSD (C-PTSD), or even Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).

I researched BPD a lot in recent months, because I think someone I'm close to has it, and I want to try to get them the help they need. From what I've read about it, often people with BPD as adults had gotten diagnosed with ADHD in their youth. (I think this is a correlation, not a causation. I think that ADHD and BPD might have the same or similar root causes.)

Then again, I could be thinking I see a connection where none exists, though. I just bring this up because it's fresh in my memory, and because I know that PTSD, C-PTSD, and BPD are all treatable (and potentially curable).

[STEM_Dad]

I can relate to things getting worse. I didn't struggle much with my ADHD in K-12 school (I hid what struggles I had). College, career, and adult life were another matter. I struggled all the time.

Several years ago, I began to suspect I have ADHD, by still didn't seek a diagnosis. I was finally in a job I loved and did well in. Then, the department that I was working in went through a reorganization, then I found myself in a job I didn't like and had a boss who was very difficult for me to work for. After over 3 years in that position (looking for a different job most of that time), I had a ton of anxiety, and my still-undiagnosed ADHD struggles got a lot worse.

I finally got offered another job, and didn't want to bring the anxiety with me into it.

That's when I finally went to counseling for the anxiety, and I asked my counselor to evaluate me for ADHD. Sure enough, I have ADHD (Predominantly Inattentive presentation), and treating my anxiety brought my ADHD symptoms back down to my normal, everyday level. Getting on medication for my ADHD helped me somewhat, but then changing to my current medication helped me a lot more.

I'm glad that you know about your ADHD at at the age you are. I didn't figure this out until I was 45. It's a well-known observation that the earlier the treatment, the better the outcome.

[Darklight_465 in reply to STEM_Dad]

thank you for sharing your experience I have made an appointment with my psychiatrist to see if its normal.

[STEM_Dad]

Great! I hope that you have a good, insightful psychiatrist.