is this normal behavior?

[coffeelover716]

my husband just told me he is going to go to lunch with a woman he met on a forum , just lunch . hes now mad at me because i said heck no. he says its all innocent but i dont think its appropriate and it hurts my feelings. anybody have any thoughts about this?

[kenster1]

Hi what was the forum in relation too

[coffeelover716 in reply to kenster1]

his schizo forum he has been on for years.

[hypercat54]

Tell him in that case you will be going to lunch with a man you met online too. It doesn't have to be true does it.

[kenster1 in reply to hypercat54]

Could even make it a foursome.

[b1b1b1 in reply to kenster1]

🤣🤣😁👏

[coffeelover716 in reply to kenster1]

really a homebody and not interested in meeting strangers .

[MadBunny in reply to hypercat54]

Great idea!

[coffeelover716 in reply to hypercat54]

i said that and he decided not to go , LOL.

[Existing in reply to coffeelover716]

Oh that's funny!

[Dolphin14]

coffeelover716

Why don't you go with him?

🐬

[coffeelover716 in reply to Dolphin14]

not interested in meeting people i dont know.

[gettingsomewhere]

Hi keep an open mind until you discover otherwise.

I suppose it really depends what's on the menu.

[Alpakka123]

Believe me when I say that nothing is normal about any of this!🤦‍♀️

[coffeelover716 in reply to Alpakka123]

yes , i agree .

[Alpakka123 in reply to coffeelover716]

That's actually not what I meant

[Arymretep]

Does he normally do this kind of thing, or is it the first time, I wouldn’t be happy for my OH to go out to lunch with a comparative stranger, unless as suggested you went along too 👍

[coffeelover716 in reply to Arymretep]

at first he was doing this when we were dating but we are married and have been together 10 yrs,

[Agora1]

Hi coffeelover716, sounds very much like the 7 Year Itch. Be careful in not allowing

anyone else to scratch it but you. (Not meant to be funny) A very serious time in

a couple's life. Therapy may be an answer. xx

[coffeelover716 in reply to Agora1]

I thought of that too , not happy about any of it.

[Agora1 in reply to coffeelover716]

I understand dear. My heart goes out to you xx

[Existing]

Uh, if married, that would certainly need an explanation with it😀 like he should expect you might think that was a little weird😄

[coffeelover716 in reply to Existing]

very true.

[secrets22]

My husband and I often went out separately with various people because we both had different interests, and nothing untowards ever happened. Although not through meeting online.

[coffeelover716 in reply to secrets22]

thank you for your reply .

[Existing in reply to secrets22]

But out of the blue, don't you think he should consider how that could sound to his wife? Just saying if he gave a little thought to how it would sound... Although she did say he was schizophrenic, and that has a tendency to make one unaware of how others interpret things... And so the OP might explain if he is this blunt with other things he says and does.

[K9Crazy]

Who requested the lunch date? I will give the guy a little credit because he told you in lieu of being sneaky, hiding it from you or lying about it. However, it is a little different when you meet a random person on a forum and go to lunch, versus going to lunch with someone from work, or other organizations that you as the spouse are at least familiar with by name. Personally I would find it very disrespectful. Married men should not go on lunch dates. Why does he feel the need to meet her face to face anyway? It seems like someone wants to elevate the level of their interactions. It is best to avoid potential compromising encounters if you like being married. Or as the saying goes…she could be his next ex.

[coffeelover716 in reply to K9Crazy]

I was thinking the same thing. it is not appropriate . she requested it according to him but who knows...

[SayNOtoPanic]

Nope, not normal. Glad you spoke up.

[Existing]

In responding to a comment here, no thought about the reference to him in schizophrenic, which we know means they don't always have a great grasp on how others perceive or interpret things. Is he this blunt about other things he says and does, like lacking the backstory most people would include, to give context to the things he says and does?