Working on a memorial

[Jsteve36]

Working on this memorial for my mother, her brother passed in a bad accident this last fall , he was a logger and this is a piece of a step from his truck that I found at the accident site, so I'm making a memorial out of it for him for my mom.

This last summer was extremely hard with the losses of uncle Roy, my Grandfather, my uncle Wayne , and my best friend's Mom Carol who was like a second mom to me.

I don't know if how I have been feeling the last two months is due to built up denial and not grieving properly .

[Shnookie]

Hi Steve. It’s Shnookie. Please don’t be hard on yourself. U have taken a lot of hits in a small period of time. It’s very brave of U to come on this website. Grieving can take time. One thing U can do is join a bereavement group. I was a caregiver for my mom who had pancreatic for 16 months until she passed in January 2016. The bereavement group helped me. At least U can try it once to see how it goes. U can journal your thoughts as well. I’m here 4 U. Hugs 🤗 S

[Mumma_h]

What an absolutely beautiful thing to do for your mother!! I’d love to see a photo when it’s finished. I’m sure she will cherish it forever, not only remembering her beloved brother but also feeling the love from her wonderful son every time she looks at it . You sound amazing!💕 You and your family and friends have been through so much , I hope your all getting a lot of comfort from each other . Whatever you’re feeling the last couple of months would most likely be due to all your loss, denial can just come from a place of ‘ I can’t believe this has actually happened’ even subconsciously. It’s a LOT to take in so don’t expect yourself to . And you’ve probably spent all your time being there for your friend and mum , so you’re having to stay strong for them ( I’m just guessing here ) . There isn’t any proper way to grieve , don’t worry, just accept how your feeling , there may be floods of tears occasionally or feel complete love when you think of them . Just let it be what is . There’s no proper way to grieve, like there’s no proper way to live, or work or have a relationship, we’re all different there’s no right or wrong as long as you’re ok that’s the main thing and take schnookies advice if you feel you are struggling with it , don’t stuff it down if you’re becoming really stressed . God bless!! Not sure what else to say accept my heart goes out to you 💕

[Jsteve36 in reply to Mumma_h]

My friend's mom was a strong woman and had a heart of gold, she was very accepting of people and their flaws.When my mom and step dad were going through their divorce my friend and his mom took me in no questions asked.

I lived with them for a couple months.

Before all that happened I don't think there was a time that I was not over at my friends house , I would stay the night at his house more than any other friends house cause he and I were more like brothers, me him and his mom would watch a movie or two while eating popcorn.

I miss them days so much it hurts !

Thank you so much for your kind words my friend , it means a lot!

[Mumma_h]

What an amazing woman , with a very beautiful heart . I hope I can be just a little like that too, I try and my childrens friends are ALWAYS welcome and treated with kindness and talk to me , to me its a privilege. Her qualities are the most important ones , love , acceptance…. Everyone could do with someone like that in their lives . Her memory will live on your heart forever 💕

[Midori]

Hi Steve and Welcome!

You and your mom have had a lot of heartache just lately, and I think the memorial made from the truck will be perfect!

Grief is a strange thing. Through a process I have gone from daughter to wife, to mother, to widow, to orphan and finally ending up as matriarch of my little family. It has been a strange life, punctuated by episodes of grief as relatives, friends and husband have gone. I have come to terms with it over the last 30 years, and I am content.

One thing is, Don't rush your grief, it is a process that takes it's own time, some folk get over it quickly and can move on, others find it harder, and Queen Victoria spent more than 40 years in Mourning. Don't let anyone say to you 'get over it.'

We are a supportive bunch here, Most of us have received help here, and remained here to help and support others. There are folk getting through and at all stages of their journey.

Cheers, Midori