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Hello my name is Danya ..i would like to apologies for my english because it is my second language .

i am new here and i think i have depression and i dont know where to seek help because my options are limited, i cant pay for therapy and my family dont really understand my problems, i am really struggling and have no one beside me.

i tried looking for help online but all of them were scam, i am lost.

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kenster1

hi welcome aboard.

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Agora1

Welcome Danya2003, to a safe and caring forum.Your English is fine, no need to apologize. You no longer

have to feel lost, we are the true thing. Reach out to us

anytime. You have found help from friends. :) xx

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AuntBee

Welcome to the group ❤️

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Gillyflower18

Welcome Danya! Your English is fine. This is a great group. You’ll fine lots of encouragement here and many good ideas. There’s always people ready to listen.

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NorwegianWood

If you think you are depressed then you probably are. Some ideas to get you started in dealing with it:

* Examine Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. You'll find some help online.

* Go walking or other exercise. One study showed that 6 weeks of walking was at least as effective as medication, plus you have the satisfaction and enjoyment of having done it.

* Mindfulness/relaxation is great to stop the overactive mind which tends to focus on negative things.

* Depression is not the real you. It is a very persuasive imposter. Do not believe the negative things it says to you. Record all the positive things happening in your life. One way is to record three new things every day. Every day! Keep it going!

Depression can be overcome and this site will be part of your cheer squad.

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Lve2dance

We are here for you 💋 my family doesn't understand either.. Even though my mom can have her own issues.. Sometimes the get over it method just doesn't work.Your English is very good 😁.

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Daveacr1959

I have been battling anxiety my whole life. Get 6-8 hours of sleep each night. Get 45 minutes of daily cardio exercise to produce endorphins. Before getting out of bed, do the Wim Hof guided breathing exercises free on you tube. 3 rounds working up to 5 rounds. After your shower take a 5 minute cool shower rinse . Working up to a full cold rinse. Start at 70 degrees and lower the temperature 2 degrees per week until your fully cold rinse. Maybe you can fully shower in pure cold after 4-5 months. Google cold shower therapy for mental health. Make sure no heart problems first.

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Midori

Hello Danya,

Welcome to the community. We are a friendly bunch of people and we Have all suffered from depression and mental illness.

Tell us how we can help you.

Cheers, Midori

welcome danya! you have found community here. if you think you are depressed then you are. please go online and check out NAMI. they offer virtual support groups and mine has been a life saver. if it interests you and you help, i can send you a link to my Tuesday afternoon (USA) group. youre not alone. tim

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Zhangliqun

Some pretty good advice in here, especially from NorwegianWood. I would add a couple things but first, what are your symptoms? Which leads to my first tip:

1) Obviously find out what's causing this. If you can't afford therapy (I can't either), see if you can afford medication. If you have anxiety along with the depression, I recommend trazadone at night, it's very cheap and is great against anxiety and adds the bonus of drowsiness. (But of course, consult the doctor in case you are taking medications you can't mix with it.) It's non-addictive, meaning it has the same effect forever. Then:

2) Force your mind to focus on happy positive things. NW is right, depression is a persuasive imposter, a nice way of saying it's a big fat liar. It will make you believe that not only your situation but the whole universe is hopeless and futile. Even as you rationally understand that the moods come and go, each time you are in one, it will make you believe that you have been in this state from eternity past and will be that way forever. Once you really internalize the knowledge that the feelings come and go and are not an indication of the reality outside your head, that is at least half the battle. On reminding yourself of this, you will experience at least some partial relief.

These positive things you will focus on are every bit as real outside your head as the negative things. In my own case, I like looking at photos of fall foliage on line (or in-person if it's the season!) or going to hardware stores and feeling the positive atmosphere of constructive things you can do to fix something at the house or to start some project or hobby. Or looking at pictures and videos of baby bunnies. Or just going down memory lane for some positive memories.

Different things work on different people but anything that gives you even 5 minutes away from the bad thought patterns is a point gained; it's 5 minutes you weren't feeding this snake. That matters because it won't stay as is; if you let it have its way, it doesn't stay the same, it gets worse. By contrast, resisting it in this and other ways makes it weaker. It will be difficult at first, and you'll be haunted, especially in the early going, by anticipatory anxiety (Is it coming again? is it coming again??) so DO NOT be discouraged if you're unable to sustain it. Mental exercise is like physical in that it wears you out easily in the early going but you will gain strength and it will become second nature after a while. There will still be bad days but they will become less frequent and, on average, less severe.

3) Be aware of your physical posture, even facial expressions, they really do affect your mental state. In my case if I allow my shoulders to scrunch and my face to grimace, the anxiety comes on and my stomach starts to boil. But if I force my shoulders and face to relax, it almost always goes away. Like focusing on positive things, this takes some effort to sustain and it will also be difficult at first, but it too will become second nature after a while.

4) Finally, be willing to fight this thing. Don't be passive and hope it will go away on its own. It won't. Don't go for the increasingly popular belief that humans are just meaningless constellations of atoms; for depressives especially, that is a recipe for suicide. In order for the fight to be worthwhile, there must be a Source of all these positive/good things mentioned above. Otherwise human life has no value and neither does anything else. And another good thing worth fighting for is that after a while, you will become the voice of experience to help someone else new to this disease to fight it, and you may save a life or two. That makes this illness, yes, worthwhile...

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