There never is a grieve by date

[secrets22]

For all those who have loved and felt beleaguered by loss there is never a time when grief will leave completely,it will come back and play havoc with our mind when its least expected.Time does not bring relief;they lied, Who told me time would ease us of our pain!We miss them in the weeping of the rain;We want them at the shrinking of the tide;The old snows melt from every mountain-side,And last year’s leaves are smoke in every lane;But last year’s bitter loving must remain,Heaped on our hearts, and our old thoughts abide.There are a hundred places where I fearTo go,but go i must,but now I must go alone.But one things for sure,we are not alone as so many go through the endless gamut of emotions which brings pain and thoughts of happier days.Hang in there because although the emotional pain never goes away,we learn to manage that pain and we see a future,a future which our loved ones would wish for us.x

[Hidden]

Hello Roddy very well and beautifully written but so sad is grief the pain and loss of loved ones, no it never goes away as love never dies nor do our memories happy but sad as now that's all is left, the final stage of grief I believe is acceptance although do we really ever, yes for a while but my mam sometimes still says I wish Dave was here we often struggle without him but life goes on she's had many happy moments since,and has emerged stronger, my step dad taken away age 67 my mam has plodded on on her own with the help of family, all them years,me and her went on Holliday's together for 7 years she said after he died I'm determined to go on it would be so easy to give up, life will never be the same just different and yes they want us to live our life's as full as they would, and they are watching over us giving us there strength, sending 💛and hugs 🌟xxx

[Arymretep in reply to Hidden]

Lovely post Mandy, you’re right life goes on, when I lost my Mam and Dad I thought how could I go on as we were so very close, time doesn’t heal but it makes us stronger to deal with the loss.

Those who live in our hearts never die.❤️

[Hidden in reply to Arymretep]

Hi and yes and as we know the spirit lives on I feel my dad's with me or step dad or maby even my gran or my cats as j felt some gooseyness sweep over me as I read your message I live in fear of mam dying bit my lesser grief's although grief is grief of the many cats heartbreaks of boyfriends friends family before as I guess made me more prepared but I feel the loss of a mother is one of the biggest losses and as we are so close she's my main source of company I don't have a boyfriend she's 82 half now with very narrow veins and I feel like I'm.loving on borrowed time I am lucky that I know I'll have your ongoing support when she dies, I dont want her to end up in a home like dad endless sufferring just waiting to die I hope it's quick like was with my step dad and 2 friends 💛🤗😻🌟xxx

[Arymretep in reply to Hidden]

Yes it’s worse when you are so close I was the same, but we are so lucky to have such wonderful relationships aren’t we , I can’t imagine what it must be like for people who had an abusive parent not to have closure and ask why? It’s so sad not to have the love we’ve had in our lives.

I know you will look after your Mum as long as you possible can like I did with mine , she’s lucky to have you 👍xx

[Hidden]

How are you and the dogs getting on?

I remember back in April the week after my dad had died and one of my friends had said how grief is an open wound and had advised me to take it at my own pace.

[secrets22 in reply to Hidden]

my fur babies are good,thankyou for asking.x

[EndUser13]

Very well said! I still feel the pain of living in a world without a couple of people (well, animals too), but keeping them alive in my heart with good memories has helped.

My grandma and I were great friends and she said to keep talking to her even once she's gone... so now I look a little crazy on occasion, talking to an invisible person 🤣

[Shnookie in reply to EndUser13]

It’s not crazy talking to an invisible person. Instead of visiting the cemetery, I often talk to my parents. I know that they have gone to heaven or as we also refer to it in Judaism, Gan Eden - Garden of Eden. I also have a recording of my mom from an old school answering machine. She left a message for my birthday and in certain ways it was very humorous. It mentioned my age and told me to follow her advice because it was heartfelt. Priceless

[Arymretep]

Oh how lovely to have your Mums voice to listen to, as you say priceless ☺️