Update on broken heart

[Marato]

Hi, years ago I joined this because I was heart broken (years ago). I used spill my heart out on this site. After that great break I went though severe depression where living was hard.

I think Met someone new and tried to be happy with him but I couldn’t be as the one who broke my heart was always on my mind. And I’m crying now thinking about him.

I blocked him off everything. Something must be seriously wrong for me to be sad over someone from such a long time ago who abandoned me and left me.

I’d like some advice or opinions please

[lillyofthevalley37]

Hi Marato it is difficult to advise you because how can we know why he left and broke your heart ? You must have some idea why this all happened, I do sympathise though as it is like being in chains being emotionally tied to someone like that , have you looked for him on facebook ?

[Marato in reply to lillyofthevalley37]

HiThat break up blind sided me. And I think I felt strongly for him then he did for me.

After 1year of the break up

I was suicidal and literally couldn’t live. So I blocked him off everything . But here I am still struggling

[jackiesj in reply to Marato]

Marato, im sad for you.Until you let go of the "idea" of the one who left you...how can a nother have a chance. Maybe a counsleor will help in finding why you think someone who left you would still complete you. Are you happy with you on your own....he never completed you, he left...not because of you but because of him.Many feel guilty and want that back, a do over that wont happen.Because you didnt do it..he left. To what if......stops us from forward.After 1 year....love yourself. thinking of someone not there.....why...

[cocoyellow]

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. The exact same thing happen to me and 5yrs later I feel like you. I miss him and still love him and probably always will. He never did anything bad to me and even if he did, unconditional love never dies. But because I love him, I respect his decision and wish him the best. I probably still going to think about him 20yrs from now, but my life goes on. I don't sob over him, I don't stress, I continue to live my life and don't let it affect me. So try to accept what happen and to move one and try to find happiness. Work on accepting what happen, it is what it is, nothing can change the past, but you can change your future. Good luck, praying for you 🙏💜

[Daveacr1959]

I’m not an expert, but I think what happened to you, happened to 80 percent of all people. Remember all the old love songs? Most are about someone singing about a broken heart. It seems people break up with each other. And one person was into the other a bit more? I think it’s why songs like “ nothing compares to you’ by sinead occonor are such big hits . Some people are gifted heart breakers unfortunately. But nobody has it all . They might be gifted in that area, but they lack in other areas.

You must put this person out of your mind. Get 7-8 hours of sleep each night. Stay busy in a positive direction. Don’t give your heart to someone unless they give it back. Get 45 minutes of cardio exercise daily to produce endorphins that battle your anxiety and depression. Take a 5 minute pure cold shower daily. Google cold shower therapy for mental health. You are going to be fine. Someone will come along who was better for you anyway.

[live-2021]

This is hard for me, but I have the same issue. My marriage ended 7 1/2 years ago. We were together almost 20. I have gone on 4 coffee dates and that's all. There is something holding me from moving on and I'm trying to figure it out. I know I have gotten no closure, so that may be it. I hope so much you can get to the root, so you can move on and be happy.