Anxious about never getting married........ ?

[autumnmarie5]

I have anxiety about never getting married. I am 23 and I have been engaged previously, due to it not being the right person I broke it off. I have been seeing my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and we live together. I really love him and I am proud of the life we are making together. I, however, get super anxious that he's never going to propose to me and I will never be married. I have been apart of 3 weddings since the break up and one of them being my brothers so it has been tough not to compare myself and to not get the slight bit jealous. He says he has something 'in the works' and has been saving money for a ring. I just can't help but shake the anxious feeling of it never happening. Is this normal? If so, has anyone dealt with this or similar instances in your relationships?

[Midori]

Hi there;

Two years is not a long time in relationships, He is probably as worried as you, but try not to broach the subject of weddings for awhile, as you could drive him away. If you're sure he's the One, treat him kindly, and don't make him think you haven't looked past the actual wedding day. Living together is a good way to find out if you're right for each other, but can be a pain if you find you aren't.

How long were the relationships in the other marriages that you have attended? Are they all going well? Use them for research into the subject.

If your BF is saving for a ring that is a hopeful sign, that he looks pretty kindly on the idea.

Cheers, Midori

[autumnmarie5]

I appreciate your sweet comment and you taking the time out of your day to respond. I haven't gotten engaged yet to him but hopefully coming soon and you are right, I need to listen to my gut and just be calm when the time is right it will happen. Thank you again!

[autumnmarie5]

I wanted to say I really appreciate the time you took out of your day to comment and give some sound advice. Yes since we have already been living together, and i've already been engaged to another previously, I guess it's on my mind. I hate that for you and I am so sorry you had to deal with that! Your advice about not being too anxious and pushing it as a good point, I should just be thankful I am with him. I just know others in my family keep asking and I don't want it to feel like I am good enough to live with but not to make the official commitment with, ya know? I really appreciate you reaching out!

[autumnmarie5]

That's true, I guess since we have been living together for over a year and it has been going great I am just wanting to ensure that he will want to make that commitment and not just want me to care for him without it. I was engaged to another man previously and we were together a total of 5 years but never lived together. We started dating in high school then in college he proposed. I broke it off with him because of how we were too different for each other and how I realized maybe he wasn't the one for me. Quickly after, I met the man I'm with now and we were together for 6 months when we moved in together and everything like I said has been going great. That's true I should be thankful that he already has well over a couple grand stashed but I guess it makes me more anxious about it. Thank you for reaching out, my friend!