How do I make my relationship work with my depression?

[starcrossedtraveler]

Currently in a relationship where my depression is getting in the way of us, I feel. I am in therapy but my SO thinks I am doing nothing to change. He is hurting because my depression hurts him, he feels neglected, ignored and shut out. But therapy is a process, how can I make him see that? How can I make him understand that I am not doing this to Hurt him or on purpose? If any of us could, we would stop being depressed. I feel that after a year of us together and only a couple of months in therapy, he has Lost Faith in me and our relationship.

[Cancergirl]

Hello. I am so sorry to hear this. My husband does not understand what I am going through. I am a recovering cancer patient. He thinks because I look normal, I am normal. He doesn't understand why I am depressed or have anxiety. He holds a lot of his feelings in. He always has to be right and cannot admit if he is wrong. When I was in therapy, he didn't feel it was helping. He even came with me a few times. He didn't like when the therapist told him he was wrong. He doesn't want me to spend money on experiments like Ketamine and is leary of TMS.

He finally started doing some research of his own because I told him that he needed to see it wasn't just me feeling this way. There is an institution / rehabilitation center about an hour or so from where we live. He looked into and thinks I should go. I am nervous to go.

For your situation, I think communication is key. If you are able to have your SO go to a session with you, it might help, or, as I had told my husband, do some research of his own and read about others dealing with the same feelings/situations. It may help. I wish the best

[starcrossedtraveler in reply to Cancergirl]

Thank you so much. I will try that. I am glad to read you are recovering and wish you well as well.

[DopeyMonkey]

Hi I just Create an Post I feel your pain as my post is form the other side what you wrote and describe sound like my wife, and I have been killing my self to support her and now I am broken as well, Hopefully I can get answers as to deal with her pain. And to be better for her.

[starcrossedtraveler in reply to DopeyMonkey]

Thank you so much. I hope you find the answers to help each other .